Letter of Concern at work

Obviously you shouldn't have done something that you were expressly told not to.

But the reasoning for the instruction in the first place is batshit!

So you disobeyed a direct order not to use the car park?

I'm not surprised that you are getting a warning.

It doesn't really matter what we think, only what your boss thinks

Fucking hell, she sounds like a sociopath!

When we park against the rules at work, we get a parking ticket, not a bloody dressing down!

She crazy.

You stuck two fingers up and got caught 🤷‍♂️

Accept the letter with good grace and maybe get all the staff together to have the rule changed?

I'm struggling to imagine how you (or your colleagues) could have parked in this car park WITHOUT thinking you would be seen.

Which leaves the impression you did think you'd be seen but didn't care, didn't think anything would come of it. And you were wrong.

Also doesn't really matter what your colleagues or haven't done. It was YOU she saw.

Yeah sorry sounds like your boss is cracking down on people who don't follow their simple instructions

Agree with this OP.
I'd be looking for another job if I were you - she sounds like she would be quite vindictive going forward...

She's not crazy.

She's told her staff not to do something and they've gone ahead and done it.

What is actually a Letter of Concern? It’s not a warning is it?

What exactly does the letter of concern say?!

It sounds stupid they are going to punish you like this for where you park. If anything she should of given you a verbal warning about parking there first, and then if you persisted given you the letter.

Why did you think the rules didn’t apply to you?

It is completely off the wall that the reason for not using the car park is because others don’t have that option🤪🤯

I don’t even know where to start with that one but if someone thinks like that, don’t be surprised if they act in bizarre ways around other things!

Having said that, if your boss says don’t do x, you are always going to be taking a risk if you do x and they catch you!

You did deliberately do something you'd been told not to.

If they're really banning you from using it to be fair to the other office, that seems rather petty. If there just aren't enough spaces for everyone, perhaps they should come up with a way of deciding who gets to use them (lottery, greatest need, small charge) rather than wasting what is available.

Director sounds awful … car park decision ludicrous. Check your disciplinary policy - I would imagine thar there needs to be a bit more of a process before warning are issued.

Find yourself a new role

Ah sorry. I’ve just googled and found it’s meaning.

You shouldn’t have done what you did OP but hopefully this woman won’t be vindictive. I had a vindictive woman boss a few years back when I’d worked there 6 years, survived redundancies and she suddenly targeted me. I left after finding out my legal rights (not much).

She was upset. Good grief. Perhaps she should take some time off for stress if something so small can tip her over the edge.

a letter of concern seems a bit much and also having a half empty car park

Ok you did something wrong but her reaction is OTT- not sleeping?! It's parking!!!!

A letter of concern is normally an informal warning so is really the most lenient action she can take that still falls within a disciplinary process. Technically she could have taken formal action as this would fall within failing to follow a management instruction.

That said, it does sound ridiculous to not allow you to park as does her saying she couldn't sleep over it...I'd be seriously considering whether I wanted to continue working there.

From what I’ve read about letter of concern it’s more informal than eg a verbal warning would be. It’s basically a chance to improve behaviour.

You parked in the car park where there are always plenty of spaces, but it’s forbidden to you because it’s for another office and “execs”? Yes you broke a rule but it’s hardly the crime of the century, and for her to take it personally and say she was upset and couldn’t sleep is bonkers.

How does she function in a director level job if she’s so thin skinned and fragile? And frankly she doesn’t have enough to do if she can obsess over a staff member parking in a Forbidden Space (gasp) in a half empty car park.

Be careful, this sounds like one of those tricky workplaces where the senior managers have strange hobby horses.

Does your boss use the car park?

I can't even imagine a situation where a car park has to be left half empty for the reason you've given.
Where do the people in the other office park?

I don’t understand why you deliberately did something you shouldn’t and are surprised when they deal with it

yes I can see why she took it personally it just shows a complete lack of respect to your manager

Her words and reaction and not sleeping are ott and I dread to think how she would react if you didn't something major.

However, I would be pissed off at a staff member who blatantly ignored the rules and decided they didn't apply to them. I would address (more than likely just mention it, highlight where and why it has been made clear and advice that there will be no more said or done about it on the understanding it won't happen again) it but in a more appropriate way than she has.