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AIBU or did this guy overreact to our dog approaching him?

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MrsH1992 · 05/10/2023 21:04

So we were walking our doodle on the beach who's about a year old and 4kg. Most the beach is no-dogs allowed in summer but this is the only bit they are allowed on. She's usually really good but sometimes has bad recall if she sees someone she knows. There was a guy in a red coat who I think she mistook for my dad as he has a similar coat/ build and she ran over to him and put her front paws up on his knees. We were running after her apologising when the guy tries to repeatedly stomp and kick her. She ran back to me terrified. This guy is now screaming at us and swearing really badly. He has a little kid with him (maybe three) so we say sorry but he needs to calm down. He then threatened us and was trying to square up to my husband. We're just trying to get round him but he's blocking our way (we need to continue along the shore line to get back to our car). In the end we get past but I was on the verge of calling the police.

So I know some people really don't like dogs and we should have her under control but it was the dog section of the beach plus she's tiny. I think he massively overreacted and shouldn't come to the dog beach if he feels that strongly and is liable to loose his temper like that. AIBU?

OP posts:
lap90 · 05/10/2023 23:15

His behaviour was extreme but you need to have your dog on a lead.

2024815pm · 05/10/2023 23:18

So a guy being aggressive and physically violent is ok? He kicked the OPs dog

MrsH1992 · 05/10/2023 23:22

Marblessolveeverything · 05/10/2023 22:29

You are really ignoring the responses. He didn't know your dog, your dog jumped up on him he had no way of knowing if your dog is violent and he had a child.

The idea h could "tell" the dog made a mistake is laughable.

I adore dogs and have had many family pets but I certainly wouldn't be very happy to be jumped on by a strange dog.

I never said he should of known it was a mistake, obviously he would have no idea what the dog is like. I'm just confused why a lot of people are saying I should of known better when this dog had never approached or jumped up at a stranger before. I do think he overreacted as as soon as he looked at her she started running away back to us and he proceeded to try to kick and stomp her chasing towards us.

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MereDintofPandiculation · 05/10/2023 23:22

I can't help thinking it's a sad that most people seem to think it would be ok to stomp a 4kg puppy that was obviously confused. You don't seem to have read the replies. Saying your dog should have been on a lead for her own safety is not the same as saying it's OK to stomp on a puppy.

Universalsnail · 05/10/2023 23:23

Your dog should be on a lead or long line but he does sound like he needs to get a serious grip and his behaviour was massively inappropriate

MrsH1992 · 05/10/2023 23:25

MereDintofPandiculation · 05/10/2023 23:22

I can't help thinking it's a sad that most people seem to think it would be ok to stomp a 4kg puppy that was obviously confused. You don't seem to have read the replies. Saying your dog should have been on a lead for her own safety is not the same as saying it's OK to stomp on a puppy.

My question was did this guy overreact and 77% say no so I assume they think stomping a puppy is ok

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Marblessolveeverything · 05/10/2023 23:29

It's basic human instinct to protect the child. If the dog moved they won't be injured if they don't then the child or him could have been bitten.

Every week there is stories of dog attacks. It really is important to keep dogs in leads or right beside you, for their sake.

2024815pm · 05/10/2023 23:37

I'm totally on your side

MrsH1992 · 05/10/2023 23:41

BotanicalNames · 05/10/2023 21:55

But you said 'She's usually really good but sometimes has bad recall if she sees someone she knows. There was a guy in a red coat who I think she mistook for my dad as he has a similar coat/ build' So she must have had bad recall previously for you to say that - so not just on 'this one occasion'. Don't change your story, we can all read.

How have I changed my story? I always said she had 100% recall with strangers up until that point but not 100% with friends and family. As she had never approached a stranger before and this guy looked just like my dad I assume she got confused. When she saw this guy's face she immediately retreated which is why again I think she was confused. I'm not saying it's ok what she did but just explaining why until this incident we trusted her off lead

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2024815pm · 05/10/2023 23:45

Has anyone actually read the OP A man attacked her, this isn't really about a wee dog its totally about an angry man getting his own way

nocoolnamesleft · 05/10/2023 23:47

2024815pm · 05/10/2023 23:45

Has anyone actually read the OP A man attacked her, this isn't really about a wee dog its totally about an angry man getting his own way

Nah, if he'd had his own way he wouldn't have had a strange out of control dog jumping all over him whilst he was on the beach with his toddler.

2024815pm · 05/10/2023 23:56

Ok then fine. It's always women's fault when they get attacked.

MrsH1992 · 05/10/2023 23:58

Boomboom22 · 05/10/2023 21:43

Your dog is very violent, it touched him and attacked him, it didn't leave when you called and he had a small child!! You must be completely mad to think that could be ok.
@Lostcotter I do hope the police arrested the crazy dog owner and supported the poor man who had to defend himself from attack. Dogs are a weapon.

Very violent? Lol

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brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 06/10/2023 00:03

I’d have hurled the little fucker into the sea.

If I ran up to you and put my hands on your body and started panting with my stupid long pink tongue hanging out, would you be happy ?

MrsH1992 · 06/10/2023 00:07

FrancisSeaton · 05/10/2023 22:21

I can't see anyone saying it's okay to stomp a dog but you are totally wrong to allow this situation to occur. You are the type of dog owner that gives all owners a bad rep

How am I bad dog owner when up until this point she had had perfect recall with strangers and no previous incidents? Obviously she shouldn't of done it but how could I know a dog with a perfect track record in public would do something so out of character.

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2024815pm · 06/10/2023 00:08

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 06/10/2023 00:03

I’d have hurled the little fucker into the sea.

If I ran up to you and put my hands on your body and started panting with my stupid long pink tongue hanging out, would you be happy ?

I'd say you're a lonely sad ass with tiny genitals so fuck off

MrsH1992 · 06/10/2023 00:08

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 06/10/2023 00:03

I’d have hurled the little fucker into the sea.

If I ran up to you and put my hands on your body and started panting with my stupid long pink tongue hanging out, would you be happy ?

You're disgusting

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MyBigFatCapybara · 06/10/2023 00:09

Sounds like May be he or the child had a fear of dogs which got triggered. Keep your dog on a long leash.

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 06/10/2023 00:14

2024815pm · 06/10/2023 00:08

I'd say you're a lonely sad ass with tiny genitals so fuck off

Feeble. Imagine being out just having a nice day then all of a sudden some little furry twat is clawing at your knees. If a human behaved like that they’d get a restraining order.

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 06/10/2023 00:17

MrsH1992 · 06/10/2023 00:08

You're disgusting

Your dog is. Must have been pretty unpleasant for the poor chap on the beach. Just proves that all dogs can be unpredictable, should be leashed and muzzled in public places.

NewName122 · 06/10/2023 00:18

You were definitely in the wrong here. If your dog goes not come back when called absolutely do not take it off a lead.

PandaExpress · 06/10/2023 00:18

2024815pm · 05/10/2023 23:11

This isn't about a wee dog saying hello anymore. It's about a nasty bully of a guy getting his own way and MN agreeing. You're shameful

Shameful, why thank you 😅
I literally started my comment with 'He shouldn't have reacted the way he did'
You have no idea why this man was so reactive to an out of control dog running up to him and his toddler. For all we know, one of his family members could be one of the many victims being killed or seriously hurt by an out of control dog. Who knows?
The OP is still the one at fault. The man could have had a reactive dog instead of a toddler and this would be a story about OPs sweet pup getting it's face bitten off!
Keeping the dog on a lead, protects the dog as much as anybody else!

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MrsH1992 · 06/10/2023 00:21

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 06/10/2023 00:17

Your dog is. Must have been pretty unpleasant for the poor chap on the beach. Just proves that all dogs can be unpredictable, should be leashed and muzzled in public places.

Actually it was pretty unpleasant for us to have a guy try to kick and stomp our puppy and then threaten to hit both me and my husband and physically square up to my husband. Luckily we stayed calm and managed to get away. I hope I never meet someone like you or him in public again

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vodkaredbullgirl · 06/10/2023 00:21

MrsH1992 · 05/10/2023 23:58

Very violent? Lol

They always exaggerate on every dog thread.

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