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Should I allow my 14 year old DD use Youtube?

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IrishMummy1974 Sun 29-Apr-18 20:37:25

I haven’t allowed any of my children use the internet except for school projects etc. however my 14 year old DD is begging me to let her use YouTube? I am very wary. She doesn’t have a smartphone (I won’t let her) and has never used the internet unsupervised. She claims she wants to watch the bloggers her friends talk about like Zoella but honestly I’m not sure about them at all?? Advice??

LolitaLempicka Sun 29-Apr-18 20:39:04

Does she not have friends? Go to school? I am sure she has used the internet unsupervised. She is 14, what are you afraid of?

feathermucker Sun 29-Apr-18 20:39:13

My 11 year old watches stuff on YouTube and there's never been a problem.....mainly football videos though.

Maybe set some ground rules or sit there with her at first?

Anasnake Sun 29-Apr-18 20:39:59


Fairylea Sun 29-Apr-18 20:40:18

I’m not even sure this is real... most 14 year olds have snapchat, Instagram, Facebook etc etc unlimited you tube. Almost all of them have smartphones of some sort. I think to be honest if you don’t let your teen have at least some access to these things you are being a bit unfair as it’s such a huge part of the whole teen culture. By all means have some ground rules - we have a 14 year old and she has to leave her phone and iPad downstairs charging overnight so she isn’t on it all night- but certainly allow something!

blueskyinmarch Sun 29-Apr-18 20:40:40

Never used the internet unsupervised at 14??? That seems very draconian. Let her look up Youtube videos. I am willing to bet she is on it constantly when with her friends.

NC4Now Sun 29-Apr-18 20:40:53

I think you’ve done very well to get to 14!

Yes, I’d allow it. Just flick through her history every now and again.

sonlypuppyfat Sun 29-Apr-18 20:41:17

Are you joking? What do you think she'll look at?

Anasnake Sun 29-Apr-18 20:41:37

Have you ever been on YouTube op ?

Fatted Sun 29-Apr-18 20:42:14

I'm suddenly feeling like a terrible parent because I let my 5yo watch PJ masks videos on Youtube!

Fairylea Sun 29-Apr-18 20:42:27

If she has friends - and I hope she does- then she will have been on it. Lots.

I just showed this thread to my 14 year old and she was amazed! She said “that poor girl”!

Caaarrrl Sun 29-Apr-18 20:42:40

last time a situation like this was discussed it was reverse.

CuntPuffin Sun 29-Apr-18 20:44:34

Got to be a reverse. Tell your mum to unclench. Or you'll go off the rails the moment you leave home!

zen1 Sun 29-Apr-18 20:45:27

Really? So you sit with her and supervise her internet usage for all her school projects?
I can’t believe that a 14 year old has never used the Internet unsupervised.

peterpanwendy Sun 29-Apr-18 20:45:41

Why don't you watch one of the videos she's asking about and decide for yourself? They are harmless and I agree you should let her as it's a huge part of teen culture.

blueskyinmarch Sun 29-Apr-18 20:45:54

In a few years she will be thinking pf heading off to uni and will really need to have a handle on how to manage social media and using the internet safely. By supervising her so closely at age 14 she will never be able to navigate her way around and use the internet wisely. It's a bot like never, ever allowing a teenager out on their own, they will never learn by their mistakes. Are you controlling like this in other areas of her life?

ilovewelshrarebit123 Sun 29-Apr-18 20:47:47

Really! My 11 year old has my old iPhone, kids YouTube and Instagram.

I have the security all set up and the deal is I can check her phone whenever I like. She also knows what has been given can be taken away.

I agree, unclench and let her live a bit!

Bimberley Sun 29-Apr-18 20:50:28

Um my 8 and 6 year old watch YouTube.

CountFosco Sun 29-Apr-18 20:51:53

My 5 year old watches stuff on youtube confused. They have to use computers in public areas (no disappearing off to the bedroom with the ipad and too young for mobiles) so we know what they are doing and we have strong parental controls (DH works in IT so he's shit hot on that). We (and school) talk to them a lot about internet safety and the eldest (10) and I have had discussions about porn and sharing images. I think if you have an ongoing discussion with them about the internet you can allow them controlled access, they need the respect that they will behave responsibly.

Noqonterfy Sun 29-Apr-18 20:53:48

Crikey. My ten year old has her own YouTube account. I monitor what goes on there and she is extremely trustworthy so there has never been a problem.

Anasnake Sun 29-Apr-18 20:55:51

I think someone's taking the piss hmm

Voice0fReason Sun 29-Apr-18 22:24:06

You're doing a great job of teaching her how to keep safe online and preparing her for adulthood!
Maybe she'll never have to use the internet when she's an adult.

RBBMummy Sun 29-Apr-18 22:32:04

Unless you live in Amish country she uses the internet and watches YouTube unattended all the time

NapQueen Sun 29-Apr-18 22:33:10

My kids are 3 and 6. They love "New Tube" as they call it.

NapQueen Sun 29-Apr-18 22:34:32

Love this

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