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Hullygully Mon 07-Jan-13 13:28:58

I have been invited to a wedding where the bride has developed what must really be called a phobia about old people. (Long story)

She refuses to have any one over 70 in case there is a "medical emergency" which would spoil her day and in order to avoid an outcry she proposes to organise a coach trip for the old people to see The Lion King as a treat on the same day with a special tea at a Holiday Inn afterwards and a video link to her ceremony.

Her mother is 72 and is allowed to go because she recently passed a stringent medical, but no one else of a similar age is allowed. My mother is 73 and looked after her a lot when she was little and really wants to go. Also, she has seen The Lion King already. I think she should be allowed to go to the wedding as a fit and healthy sort of "extra" mother. AIBU?

Badvoc Mon 07-Jan-13 14:33:46

She is mad as a box of frogs hully.

Wishfulmakeupping Mon 07-Jan-13 14:34:37

Just bizarre, the bride sounds totally nuts- what's the groom saying about this?!

TheVermiciousKnid Mon 07-Jan-13 14:37:16

A defibulator? A gadget that detects fibs? wink

Will the wedding reception be at a naice carvery?

Hullygully Mon 07-Jan-13 14:37:24

The people I feel sorriest for are her godparents, E and F, two of the nicest old boys you could meet. They are flying in from the far side of the world and she hasn't told them they have to go to the musical. She says it will be a "lovely surprise" for them and they will enjoy spending time with the other old folk.

Badvoc Mon 07-Jan-13 14:40:03

...there were many oaps at my wedding, inc 2 who were wheelchair bound and it NEVER occurred to me that anything might/would/could happen!
What in earth does her fiancé think? And his family?
I less she has been at a wedding where an oap has dropped down dead at her feet I can't see where her phobia comes from?
And even if that had actually happened, surely that's a one off tragedy? Nt something likely to happen again?

Hullygully Mon 07-Jan-13 14:42:26

Honestly, if I told you the story you wouldn't believe me.

mummywithnosleep Mon 07-Jan-13 14:46:58

I´ve been on the other side of this.

I am not over 70 infact at the time I was in my 20´s

But I was suffering seizures.

The Friend whose wedding it was, I had looked after for months, and she was family

She didn´t even tell me, I got a letter from a thrid party.

Broke my heart, that I was not welcome incase I "took attention away from her" or "damaged something" (actual quotes)

I´ve not spoken to her or her family since the uninvite, which was a big thing, as I used to spend hours on the phone to them every day (they used to call me, to talk due to another problem) They´d ring in the middle of the night, when I was at work etc. BUt for all that I was not allowed to see her get married.

Still upsets me know.

LettyAshton Mon 07-Jan-13 14:47:38

I wish I could have packed off some of the OAPS at my wedding to see The Lion King. Bloody pains in the arse they were. Elderly people can misbehave just as much as toddlers, if not more so, at weddings with their guestzilla antics.

OnTheBottomWithAStringOfTinsel Mon 07-Jan-13 14:49:20

Hully I've an exam at 6.30 (which I've done shag all work for) but I HAD to log on to ask - WTF???????

You do realise you will have to disclose the back story (with details changed to protect the innocent...)

Itchywoolyjumper Mon 07-Jan-13 14:49:29

Oh Hully, I can't help laughing at the medical cover she's organised for the theatre trip grin
I'm also wondering how she's going to word the invitation to the OAP's trip - "Dear Auntie Maud, I would have loved you to come to my wedding but unfortunately you are old and therefore more at risk of dying which might put the kybosh on an otherwise lovely day, please accept these tickets to the Lion King with my compliments, love the bride x "
Poor girl, she sounds like a lovely person who's having a bit of wedding induced madness.

Astelia Mon 07-Jan-13 14:50:19

Seriously? She is crazy. I know loads of people in their 70s and they are all fit as a fiddle. I have never heard anything like this.

Your mother should refuse the coach/film invitation. No reason why she should be patronised.

AlanMoore Mon 07-Jan-13 14:52:52

I wouldn't let a third year medical student near me with a thermometer, never mind a defibrillator!

Startail Mon 07-Jan-13 14:53:44

I hope, OP that this is a very early April fools joke, or the bride needs taking away by the men in white coats.

Itchywoolyjumper Mon 07-Jan-13 14:53:51

Mummywithnosleep, that's really sad, I'm so sorry that happened to you. I wonder if the OP's bride has considered the hurt she'll cause.

TeWiSavesTheDay Mon 07-Jan-13 14:57:06


That is all.

I hope your mum buys them a really shite present!

AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird Mon 07-Jan-13 14:57:14

Tell her fiance to run for the hills.

Hullygully Mon 07-Jan-13 14:59:33

Well, she first got married (nearly) at age 19. I think she wanted to get married so young because of her parents. Her mother had run off and her father (then about 40) had married another, much older woman (71), who had had a lot of work done, in fairness.

While they were at the altar her stepmother, who had a weight problem, and slight drink one if truth be known although they kept it quiet, tripped over the flower basket and fell heavily on the bride's sweet poodle who she had in lieu of bridesmaids as she was too young for anyone else to have had kids.

The wedding was cancelled (probably a good thing), but it did start this fear of oaps at weddings, which I suppose one can see.

AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird Mon 07-Jan-13 15:00:13

Omg could you imagine her with a pfb?

Latonia Mon 07-Jan-13 15:01:08

If I was one of the over 70s (and I'm not far off) I would tell her to stick the Lion King and video of the wedding where the sun don't shine.

I hope she remembers this when she's over 70. Can maybe understand over 90s if she must but 70s!

FriendlyLadybird Mon 07-Jan-13 15:01:12

This is very, very funny -- but not, unfortunately, for all those who are above the age limit for her wedding. I suggest your mother sends a brief, to-the-point reply -- f- off, for example!

AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird Mon 07-Jan-13 15:01:54

Poor poodle.

Jins Mon 07-Jan-13 15:02:34

This is one of those occasions where a subquent engagement comes in handy

OrangeLily Mon 07-Jan-13 15:03:22

Hahahahaha this is a joke right?

Please immediately ditch this 'friend'. A defibrillator on a bus full of OAPd being shipped off to a musical. Who the feck does she think she is?

I speak from being a recent (crazy) bride. The person with the biggest risk of dropping dead at my wedding was 26! (Due to allergies). I didn't really even consider the OAPs as death risks hmm

PilotRochester Mon 07-Jan-13 15:04:33

Is this for real? I kind of hope it's not. That's an awful way to treat senior members of her family. Has she considered that a younger member could ALSO have a medical emergency??

PatriciaHolm Mon 07-Jan-13 15:04:35

Hully, are you writing a novel or something grin

because I don't believe a word you've posted so far! wink

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