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Anxiety and new job

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Carol52 · 29/08/2023 07:40

I am starting a ne job in under a week.
I haven't worked in over 15 years as I had been a full time carer for my father who lived with us until he passed away last year. I have to start work financially because it is me and 2 children.
I am so anxious and I haven't even been through any health questions before I start. I suffers a car accident which has caused a neck and back pain problems.
I am so worried that I am gong to cope.
With work again also it's the social aspect I haven't had to b in that situation.

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Scaryghost · 29/08/2023 15:57

Honestly? Take one day at a time. What industry are you going into if you don’t mind me asking?

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Carol52 · 29/08/2023 16:11

Hi school admin. But with my chronic pain . I am worried I will remember everything. Also as I said before they haven't given me a health questionnaire etc. I also have 2 consultant's appointments in September which I have on work days. It's all I craving ne anxiety

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Scaryghost · 29/08/2023 16:42

Have you informed your employer of the two appointments? As they will need to arrange cover for you.

lastminutewednesday · 29/08/2023 19:38

I was going to start a similar
Thread op. I am due to start a new job on monday, having been off since February. I went self employed after years of coping with dd2's poor mental health (always having to leave work early when she was unwell etc). Cost of living means I have to go back to work (and keep some of my fledgling business going). I'm terrified. My last jobs went wrong due to family commitments and I'm worried it will happen. Again. I've Lost all confidence. I haven't Even turned a laptop on since February.

I'm so anxious about it and it's not like me at all.

I wish you well- and send lots of luck your way x

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Carol52 · 29/08/2023 19:57

Scaryghost · 29/08/2023 16:42

Have you informed your employer of the two appointments? As they will need to arrange cover for you.

No I have only found out about one of them today. I am going to tell them when I go in I Friday. I just feel awkward as I haven’t even started yet

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Carol52 · 29/08/2023 20:01

lastminutewednesday · 29/08/2023 19:38

I was going to start a similar
Thread op. I am due to start a new job on monday, having been off since February. I went self employed after years of coping with dd2's poor mental health (always having to leave work early when she was unwell etc). Cost of living means I have to go back to work (and keep some of my fledgling business going). I'm terrified. My last jobs went wrong due to family commitments and I'm worried it will happen. Again. I've Lost all confidence. I haven't Even turned a laptop on since February.

I'm so anxious about it and it's not like me at all.

I wish you well- and send lots of luck your way x

Hi we sound as though we are I. Similar positions I haven’t been in a work environment for years and because of a car accident I am done pain. But my anxiety of bring In a social work environment and just feeling incapable is awful. We can only try and if it doesn’t work out I have given it a go. Hopefully this time next week at least our anxiety will of fallen a little bit. What type of job are you going for. Let me know how you get on. Good luck

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LindorDoubleChoc · 29/08/2023 20:03

Are you being forced into taking this job?

lastminutewednesday · 29/08/2023 20:54

I'm totally based from home but it's quite IT heavy which I'm nervous about having it had to get my head around systems for so long.
It's related to the field I worked in for 23 years and trained for but not exactly the same thing.

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Carol52 · 29/08/2023 21:25

LindorDoubleChoc · 29/08/2023 20:03

Are you being forced into taking this job?

Hi well because the dwp said I was able to work they said I had to look. I was offered this job but my health problems have got worse. My work coach is no help. She said fill in the forms again which I did . My restart coach said try the job and if it's to much then at least you have given it a go . I got totally confused between them as to what I had to do . I was told I had to take a job if I was deemed fit enough. So I said I would try

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Carol52 · 29/08/2023 21:26

lastminutewednesday · 29/08/2023 20:54

I'm totally based from home but it's quite IT heavy which I'm nervous about having it had to get my head around systems for so long.
It's related to the field I worked in for 23 years and trained for but not exactly the same thing.

I hope it goes ok for me being at home would make it a little easier

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lastminutewednesday · 04/09/2023 13:27

I hope you first day is going ok op.
I'm on lunch and the first morning has been alright but there is such a lot or get y head round and my anxiety is through the bloody roof :(

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Carol52 · 04/09/2023 21:07

lastminutewednesday · 04/09/2023 13:27

I hope you first day is going ok op.
I'm on lunch and the first morning has been alright but there is such a lot or get y head round and my anxiety is through the bloody roof :(

Hi just read you message. I didn't sleep much . I woke up and thought I was having a heart attack I was shivering and could not settle. The job is full on and I came home and thought what have I learnt. It's not just the job it's getting the children to school as there is no bus and then collecting on a evening just adds to the anxiety of it all. We will see . Sorry to here your day was anxious as well. Hopefully tomorrow night we may feel a little better. So pleased you emailed keep in touch. We have taken a big step today.

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shivbo2014 · 04/09/2023 21:38

Well done for getting through your first day! I'm back to work full time from next week after bring a sahm for 4 year and I'm feeling really nervous about how I'll manage everything!!

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Carol52 · 04/09/2023 22:06

shivbo2014 · 04/09/2023 21:38

Well done for getting through your first day! I'm back to work full time from next week after bring a sahm for 4 year and I'm feeling really nervous about how I'll manage everything!!

Thank you. I would definitely feel better if my children had a school bus but they don't do I have to drop them off early and let them walk about 15 Minutes to school who open at 8. Then rush to collect as they finish at 3.15 I finish at 4.00 so they are editing for me. Good luck to you. Kept in touch

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lastminutewednesday · 06/09/2023 11:18

Well if it helps my 17 year old cussed a huge fuss this morning as she forgot her phone then kicked off when I said she had to get the bus to school as I had to start work. Way to make a stressful situation worse! The logos office of getting four kids to four schools and working alongside are Confused.
I've had a lot of online training to do this week so at least an easy ish week from a work point of view but there is so much to learn that's very new for me, and I'm still not sleeping well at all :(

Hope your week is going ok work wise at least op. And that you got some sleep at last!

lastminutewednesday · 06/09/2023 11:18

Typos! 'Logistics of' that should read!

Newgirls · 06/09/2023 12:28

It will be stressful for a few weeks while you get into the routine. Focus on how well you are doing and how much you are learning and achieving each day. At the weekend reflect on how well you have done. You should feel proud of yourself for taking this step and giving you and your kids this income and opportunity.

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Carol52 · 07/09/2023 13:23

Hi Wednesday. Great to hear from you.
Well I got through my first week . My children are shattered because they have to get up neatly one and a half hours earlier. I am shattered . The work at the moment is ok but I am new so I have had training and but to do . I. I am concerned at my two children getting tired with the early mornings . My daughter really likes her sleep so I am worried but we will see. We can try. My anxiety at night is still not great I am sleeping but I wake up and just be palpitations and can't rest. I hope you go on ok for the rest of the week. Let me know. Good luck

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piscofrisco · 07/09/2023 14:47

Hi (I've namechanged)
Well done on completing your first week. Kids will get used to the routine I'm
Sure. I hope you get some rest now and your sleep settles down. If I could just sleep I know I'd feel better about everything. I may take some nytol
Later-but the I feel groggy day after so maybe wait for the weekend. Even just 6 hours would help me calm down and stop being so anxious I think!

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Carol52 · 07/09/2023 21:43

Hi someone has recommended herbal tea I will give it a go

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Carol52 · 08/09/2023 21:04

Hi I hope we are all ok and can relax a little bit and get some sleep. This weekend. My brain feel like it's been going a hundred miles a hour. Take care .x

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