ANOTHER PHASED RETURN TO WORK ISSUE sorry long!

[loopyredangel]

Hi fellow mumsnetters, been having problems with work since my maternity ended and went on the sick 13 months ago! I have pelvis problem and find it very difficult to cope with day to day tasks, need help looking after the baby - going shopping etc. My boss has been putting pressure on me for ages to get back to work, my consultant has told him he can't predict when I am going to be well enough, but when I am I must be phased back in as he can't see me being able to return to full time duties. My boss wanted me to go back yesterday but I can't move without pain. Went for a meeting last week and felt bullied into saying I would go back, I am physically not capable, just don't know where I stand, it's bad enough I can't look after son and do fun things with him let alone the pressures from working! HELP PLEASE!!!!!

I agree it is an opportunity to do something that you really want to do.

If you've been with your employer for more than a year, then speak to ACAS about constructive dismissal. It is wrong that they should make you feel as if you have no alternative but to resign.

This would have been my 4th year with them, I will miss everyone so much, its such a worthwhile place to work for.

Are you able to make an appointment with Citizens Advice - they can talk you through all your options, as you sound like you don't really want to go.

I will give them a ring, but I know my boss wants to wait any longer!

I meant to say doesn't want to wait any longer!

Just wanted to say thanks for all the support, I have sent my letter to my boss outlining the reasons I am not able to go back yet, but hoped circumstances were different. I have drafted my resignation letter, although I really don't want to send it in. I just wish he could take someone on for 2 years, and hopefully as the consultant hopes there will be improvement by then!

Just to keep you updated, I still haven't heard anything from my boss since I wrote him that letter! Down right rude! So things are still up in the air, and I have just found out Iam pregnant again, which means I could end up worse with my condition. What would be the best thing to do now - resign - or tell him I am pregnant and fear my condtion will worsen? Just can't understand why I ahven't had a reply yet!