There is really a good book on abuse from mothers to their daughters called "You're Not Crazy - It's Your Mother!: Understanding and healing for daughters of narcissistic mothers".
It doesn't just apply to mothers or people with NPD, but it explains from child abuse survivors themselves how certain comments and actions can deeply affect children and young people. Really recommend it. As a child abuse survivor myself it helped me so much come to realize what I'd been through and hearing others experience and feel the same way. Really important book.
Please check it out 🤍 www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0232529299/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glc_fabc_MBR51M08Z7VH32TZQXWT.