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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

FFS....I really despair...

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TalkToTheWind · 11/03/2021 18:50

But the replies to this are mostly fabulous

FFS....I really despair...
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Shizuku · 12/03/2021 11:28

So essentially, you have no idea whether any of the women on that list are trans.

Not every trans person is publicly out, or is part of the trans community. Many just live their lives under the radar, and they have a GRC so they are legally female at every level. And if they are murdered in a domestic violence situation (which more trans women go through even than cis women) rather than because of transphobia, then you are likely never going to know they happened to be trans.

toffeebutterpopcorn · 12/03/2021 12:13

It’s about women. All about women. That is all. No ifs and whatabouts.

QuentinWinters · 12/03/2021 12:19

So essentially, you have no idea whether any of the women on that list are trans.
Oh whatever.
Statistically its unlikely any were trans, before even getting into how rare it is to pass well enough to be fully stealth.
I'm quite confident to say none were trans.

HeyDuggeesCakeBadge · 12/03/2021 12:25

Come off it Shizuku, very unlikely we wouldnt be aware of their trans status. We get told that it's more lethal to be a trans woman than any other demographic all the time, but there is no actual proof that is the case. I'm pretty sure it would be used as proof in every single interaction with TRAs if anyone of them were.

BadgertheBodger · 12/03/2021 12:30

@Shizuku

So essentially, you have no idea whether any of the women on that list are trans.

Not every trans person is publicly out, or is part of the trans community. Many just live their lives under the radar, and they have a GRC so they are legally female at every level. And if they are murdered in a domestic violence situation (which more trans women go through even than cis women) rather than because of transphobia, then you are likely never going to know they happened to be trans.

Trans women suffer more DV? Yeah, no. Where’s the receipts for that ridiculous comment?
PopperUppleton · 12/03/2021 12:35

Many trans people have a GRC? How many is many? Because only around 5000 GRCs haven been issued since 2004. That's not 'many' in a population of 65,000,000. So around 0.008%

Shizuku · 12/03/2021 12:37

@QuentinWinters

So essentially, you have no idea whether any of the women on that list are trans. Oh whatever. Statistically its unlikely any were trans, before even getting into how rare it is to pass well enough to be fully stealth. I'm quite confident to say none were trans.
How do you know that it's rare to pass well enough to be fully stealth? You literally have no way of knowing because, ahem, they pass well enough to be fully stealth.
TheRabbitOfCaerbannog · 12/03/2021 12:39

@Shizuku

So essentially, you have no idea whether any of the women on that list are trans.

Not every trans person is publicly out, or is part of the trans community. Many just live their lives under the radar, and they have a GRC so they are legally female at every level. And if they are murdered in a domestic violence situation (which more trans women go through even than cis women) rather than because of transphobia, then you are likely never going to know they happened to be trans.

Those women's stories are publicly available - you can read about them @countdeadwomen. There are photographs of many of them. Stop making stuff up. It's tedious and offensive. Educate yourself about VAWG.
JustTurtlesAllTheWayDown · 12/03/2021 12:41

@Shizuku

How do you know that none of the women on that list were trans?
Either there simply weren't any trans women murdered in which case it's unfair and disingenuous to attack Ingala Harris for not including them, or if some of the women on the list were trans then it's just as unfair and disingenuous to attack Ingala Harris for not including them. Its almost as if it's really about wanting an excuse to have a go at Ingala Harris and not really anything to do with excluding trans women at all.
TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot · 12/03/2021 12:44

mobile.twitter.com/SakuraNoSeirei/status/1370028585180819460

FFS at this reply to Sarah Woolley's tweet.

Why do white TRAs always try to use black and Asian women to prop up their arguments?

Do they not realise how offensive, how racist it is to do that?

And if they actually listened to the names of the killed women or looked at some of the published photos they would see that it's clearly not a list of only white women.

Feeling so angry about this, don't think I've really got my meaning across very well, but posting in case someone more articulate than me sees it and wants to express more clearly what's wrong with the tweet I've linked to.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/03/2021 12:45

I'm just reading the replies. "Even transwomen who don't exist are more important than women" is one of my favourites.

That's perfect.

Gingernaut · 12/03/2021 12:47

Trans women are more likely to murder than be murdered.

There is a hideous case of the poor girl murdered and dismembered, allegedly by Gareeca Conita Gordon and a companion.

JustTurtlesAllTheWayDown · 12/03/2021 12:57

@TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot

mobile.twitter.com/SakuraNoSeirei/status/1370028585180819460

FFS at this reply to Sarah Woolley's tweet.

Why do white TRAs always try to use black and Asian women to prop up their arguments?

Do they not realise how offensive, how racist it is to do that?

And if they actually listened to the names of the killed women or looked at some of the published photos they would see that it's clearly not a list of only white women.

Feeling so angry about this, don't think I've really got my meaning across very well, but posting in case someone more articulate than me sees it and wants to express more clearly what's wrong with the tweet I've linked to.

Ah yes, that's the Libdem individual who referred to their hormonal treatment as 'bimbo pills' I believe and were merrily telling us all off on the 50/50 parliament representation thread that ended up full of holes.
Datun · 12/03/2021 13:07

@Uhohmummy

It really makes you despair when this is the first response of someone hearing that list of names. Where is the compassion? The condemnation of male violence against women? The solidarity? The misplaced anger towards women (sensing a theme here) and attempt to refocus attention on a non existent group (by this I mean the list of trans women killed in the UK in the last 12 months) is mind boggling. Surely it’s a good thing that no trans women were killed in the last year.
Nothing is off limits is it.

And now, lately, it appears that the more inhumane, the most horrific or the more traumatic those things are, the more they are targeted.

Stillbirth, rape refuges, female genital mutilation and now even death.

Death by male violence.

Xiaoxiong · 12/03/2021 13:18

they pass well enough to be fully stealth.

Generally not after they've been murdered. If anything, some of those murdered women on a hundred plus autopsy tables in morgues across the country may have been transmen. But transmen never count, do they Hmm

Thelnebriati · 12/03/2021 13:24

Women are not the oppressor class. Using every opportunity to turn it around and blame women is not any recognisable form of feminism. It smacks of DARVO.

FFS....I really despair...
newrubylane · 12/03/2021 13:26

SW points out that if a TW doesn't have a GRC then she will be recorded as a man. But I question what the alternative is. Obviously we currently record murder victims by their legal sex, in which case this method is correct. So are we saying murders should be recorded by gender? But we can't ask a murder victim how they identify. I suppose we could ask friends/family, but what if they disagree, whose word do we take? Or are supposed to go on what they are wearing at the time of their murder, or something? What exactly are SW and co proposing?

RandomMess · 12/03/2021 13:29

But if TW are women then they would be on the list as they would be a woman 🧐 so are they now admitting TW aren't women and need a separate list??!

MeltsAway · 12/03/2021 13:33

Trans women are more likely to murder than be murdered

@Gingernaut there are some interesting accounts here:
www.womenarehuman.com/category/europe/england/

Warning: NSFW

Babdoc · 12/03/2021 14:55

RandomMess, you are expecting logical consistency from a totally illogical ideology.
TW are women but they are a different kind of sparkly superior women. Who need a separate and much more important list. Even when it’s empty.

RandomMess · 12/03/2021 15:31

@Babdoc

Fancy me wanting that GrinGrinGrin

TheRabbitOfCaerbannog · 12/03/2021 17:01

Look at the absolute batshittery Karen Ingala Smith is dealing with today. As PPs have noted, don't talk about the 118 women who died - let's have a conversation about the trans women who didn't...

twitter.com/k_ingalasmith/status/1370078383065948171?s=21

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/03/2021 18:26

How do you know that it's rare to pass well enough to be fully stealth? You literally have no way of knowing because, ahem, they pass well enough to be fully stealth.

What, no MTF trans person who fully passes to be "stealth" ever refers to themselves as transgender on social media? Because I deduce from the fact that most self declared MTF trans people are very obviously biological males, even with the ability to use photoshop, that most MTF trans people don't actually pass as female.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/03/2021 18:27

Women are not the oppressor class. Using every opportunity to turn it around and blame women is not any recognisable form of feminism. It smacks of DARVO.

I completely agree.

ItsLateHumpty · 27/03/2021 04:49

@Shizuku

How do you know that none of the women on that list were trans?
If TWAW and were on this list you’d like Jess to dead-name or out them after death? That’s ummm.... checks notes.... highly transphobic of you.
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