Comment of the day for me!

[Arghhhhhhhffs]

I have many male friends. Some understand my concerns. Some don't. Meh.

But this has done my fucking nut today and I want to vent. Debate happens... gets heated to the point of me saying "as a victim of domestic abuse and rape, I feel..."

Nope... not enough to back off me.

I say it's because I'm a woman I feel unsafe walking down the road at 11pm. Faux shock that it would be down to being a woman entirely that I feel this way.

The reply: "would you feel twice as scared or half as scared then if there's 2 of you?"

Just. Fuck. Off

Jesus. This really does demonstrate how little understanding and empathy some men have, doesn't it?

Trivialising your lived experience is abusive.

When someone claims friendship but doesn't actually have your back, its probably best you find out sooner rather than later imo.

I think the answer is that this man is now an ex friend of yours.

Sympathy. He's an arsehole.

That's so shit.
Just ignore everything else they say, you know who they are now.

I expect some people to be completely ignorant of the challenges I've faced in my life and how they've shaped me, we're all different. What is not okay is taking the piss out of it ('faux shock'), and as you're relating your experience of dv and rape to a 'friend' I think this goes double.

It's just such a fucking dumb comment to make.

You don't agree with my position on the consultation... cool. Up to you. Fill in your views.

Don't wind me up and belittle me saying as a woman I FEEL this BECAUSE I am a woman!!!!

Men can be real fuckheads,

Because as soon as there is a case reported, and the woman was drunk, walking home alone or whatever - she's fucking blamed for it.

He sounds like the dickwads who are currently spamming the @ mumsnettowers twitter with shit because Kleenex Mansize Tissues have been changed - so they can be sensitive little souls themselves, huh?

Yeah I've noticed it seems to offend men the idea that women often feel unsafe simply because they are women and this is what we face everyday

Also included were the gems that women's prisons aren't nice places either

No, no they're not. And no woman is telling you they are. They are however saying that women need female prisons.

That is officially NAMALT. I had a friend tell me there must be repeat sexual offenders because not all men are assaulting all women. I mean, what - ? No shit sherlock, don't worry, I'm not dobbing you in (but why so defensive bro?).

And the 'not nice places' is a not very clever whataboutism which - and smell the blood boiling here - is suggesting that women in prison deserve whatever they get because if they weren't criminals they wouldn't be inside. And why are most women inside? Read this and weep real fucking tears, women in prison are among the most vulnerable population anywhere: www.womeninprison.org.uk/research/key-facts.php

In fact, blood freshly boiled I will now go and do a thread on that!!

I am truly sorry your friend is such a dick. Don't worry about being the cool girl either, you have reason to avoid him now you know what an unpleasant person he is.