My last one was awful. The nurse was so rough. And her expression was of absolute disgust. I was freshly showered etc so don’t know what else I could have done to be acceptable - maybe she didn’t like my pubic hair. She really hurt my vagina near my scar from childbirth.
Sadly this kind of treatment doesn’t seem all that uncommon. Most women I’ve talked to about it have at least one story of a painful smear made painful by the practitioner not the procedure IYSWIM.
Women will continue to worry about them as long as the chance of being hurt and mistreated is there (and not remote).