AIBU to want to want to rip this guy a new one!

[Weeone03]

Please help me!

I'm actually not sure who I'm most annoyed at.

My partner has an office job, something they like to do as a stupid right of passage is take a photo of your partner and mock it up to look as though a sexual act is being performed......stupid I know.

I don't use social media and photos of myself on line are rare.

However DH has just posted a snap of me out lunching with the kids, my mouth is open and it's exactly what a certain co-worker has been waiting on.

My DH has already expressed he will not be happy if such a photo of me appears, I too have posted on my DH Facebook page that I wouldn't accept it.

Said co-worker has since messaged DH to say "this photo (of me) is the one"

I'm sitting here raging, I'm a mother and a wife but most of all I'm a women with self respect and I think this type of so called banter is disgusting!!
How degrading to me, also I don't work there! I feel unable to even defend myself!

AIBU?? Is this all office banter and I just don't get it!

I feel like going down to the office tomorrow and calling him out on his childish, pathetic behaviour.

YANBU

Hopefully your DH will rip him a new one for you!

Utterly terrible, degrading "banter"

That's not banter

That's disgusting

YANBU that's horrendous.

Go and confront him.

Take it higher to management level- make them regret the day they dared to do this to you.

I'm actually speechless! Are they school boys?

What kind of company allows that! Get your DH to sort it immediately!

Thanks everyone, as I have never worked in an office I needed to know DH and myself weren't the unreasonable ones, I almost felt like I am supposed to simple laugh it off! Somehow See the funny side but I actually don't even find it mildly amusing.

I feel this is a rubbish position for my DH, small local company, clearly not a great management structure, not any sort of HR dept.

And I'll give you all an example, the owner of this company posted a previous mock photo on his social media. As it was such great "banter"

That is pretty bloody outrageous. Majorly offensive.

The boss does it?

Fucking hell - that is disgusting.

Am I missing something? The guys not actually 'made' or posted an explicit photo yet has he.

Jiminy crickets. That's insanely unpleasant and stupid.

I presume your Dh has deleted the photo?

Sorry just to clear up, No photo, yet!
He's been trying for a while to find a photo, had other in office also looking.
He messaged this evening to say the photo DH posted is perfect for what he needs!

I am asking for advice on IF the photo appears!
And if I am being unreasonable to be upset/angry or annoyed if one does!

What came of this in the end OP?
I wonder if laws similar to revenge porn apply here?