WH redeemed itself for me this morning after yesterday's preposterous catcall discussion. There was a discussion between one of those "yes I know there are abuses but some women like it and sometimes men get whipped in porn" people and a very well-informed man who pointed out that most mainstream porn is mysogynist, that 90% of it (the mainstream stuff) features violence and that 95% of that violence in mainstream porn is directed against women.
It gave me hope. There are some male voices out there speaking out against it.
Will find link in a minute.