Early pregnancy after loss – scared

[Bumblebee512]

Hi everyone,
I’m looking for some advice and reassurance please.

I’ve just found out I’m around 4 weeks pregnant. This comes after two neonatal losses, so I’m absolutely terrified rather than excited at the moment.

With my last pregnancy (sadly ending in 2022), I was told I would need a cervical stitch in future pregnancies and to attend preterm birth prevention clinics/classes due to my history.

Does anyone know if this kind of care is usually put in place straight away, or do you have to push for it? I’m really scared of being left to wait and my anxiety is through the roof.

Any experiences or advice would be so appreciated. Thank you for reading ❤️

Hi, I’m not sure I have anything useful to add in relation to your questions but I did want to say I’m so sorry for your losses. My son was stillborn and there wasn’t a massive amount of extra support in subsequent pregnancies but I know this differs a lot depending on area so hopefully yours will be on the ball. Best of luck with your pregnancy, I know how terrifying it is but just take each day at a time or hour if need be.

Hi, sorry in advance for the long post. I'll start with a brief summary.....I am currently 8 weeks and 3 days pregnant. This is a high risk pregnancy due to the fact I have suffered from five consecutive miscarriages and pre-eclampsia. I have been taking progesterone and aspirin since I found out I was pregnant.

I am supposed to be under the care of a consultant, I have not seen one because the prenatal care team still hasn't referred me. I had a scan at five weeks and a gestational sac was visible. I went back at 6.5 weeks and a fetal pole with yolk sac and steady heartbeat was visible. I went back again yesterday for a follow up scan and there were two yolk sacs in one placenta. I was told that it is now a mono pi pregnancy. I have attached pictures below for reference.

Now here's what is causing me stress.

1. She couldn't say if there were heartbeats at 8 weeks

2.she looked back over the two previous scans whilst I was there and she was in the room when they were carried out and no mention of twins or potential twins were mentioned ( I know that one can sometimes be hidden but she didn't even say that to us)

3.The fetal pole from last time had disappeared but no sign of loss

1. She told me it could be the early stages of a miscarriage and I needed to see a doctor before leaving the hospital but failed to get a doctor. She did however tell me I can go away and have a think about my options and call the unit the next day ( today)

1. My other scans lasted 10-15 minutes this one was 4 minutes

1. She told me to wait until 12 weeks for a recan which is 4 weeks away.

6.I have not been told to stop my progesterone or aspirin. I did seek my gp's advice on stopping due to the progestogen continuing to cause pregnancy symptoms but they said to continue as they're not sure about what is going on themselves.

1. I have now gotten advice from two midwives ( not mine as she doesn't answer the phone) and a doctor and I have been advised to seek a second opinion.

Has anyone been through a similar situation? I would be so greatful for any advice because I am going crazy thinking about all of this. I can't talk to family or friends about it because I haven't told them due to the nature of the previous losses.

Thanks in advance for any help and advice you can give.