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How to gets GP to listen to me

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hellotomrw · 08/09/2025 13:30

I have had 20 years of very regular 28 day cycle, normal flow but painful periods. Had two kids the past 6 years last one 2.5 years ago. In Oct my cycles started to go weird, at first I missed periods but now I am constantly bleeding. Was referred to gynocology who did a hystercopy and took cells but found nothing abnormal and discharged me. They did say I have a thickened womb lining but thats it. But surely bleeding 40 out of 50 days and passing clots this size isn’t normal. They also did an ultrasound where they also saw the thickened womb lining and said they could see cysts on my ovaries the tech said they were chocolate cysts but id need an mri for them to see better. But then I was referred for the hysterscopy and the consultant who then saw me dismissed them and didn’t seem concerned. They did a smear and swabs earlier this year too, all normal.

i have a gp appt on Friday and I dont want them to dismiss me. I’m 35.

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hellotomrw · 10/09/2025 17:05

AttilaTheMeerkat · 10/09/2025 09:05

i tried the direct approach and it did not work but maybe you will be successful so give it a go. If someone like your partner can support you so much the better.

I ended up going private for my constant bleeding and from that the consultant wrote a stiff letter to my GP saying I should have been referred at the time of my initial visit. I had ablation surgery to stem the bleeding which was successful.

I did not want a Mirena coil (again this only treats the symptoms rather than the cause) and infact that was never suggested.

I was prescribed tranexamic acid tablets and these sadly had no effect whatsoever. The only pill that worked for me was northisterone. Ultrasound scans indeed showed thickened womb lining.

My uncontrollable perimenopausal bleeding was caused by constant rises and falls of both progesterone and estrogen. This could be happening with you as estrogen levels and endometriosis are closely linked. The fact you have chocolate cysts is an indicator of endometriosis. Endometriosis can also go down the female line.

This is very helpful thank you I didn’t know rises and falls of hormones could do this kind of things so it’s really useful to know. I feel a lot more prepared for Friday now

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Zimunya · 10/09/2025 17:13

Cinaferna · 09/09/2025 16:05

I've learned that when GPs don't listen, I stay sitting down in the chair. I don't do any of the pleasantries like saying 'Thank you very much/sorry for wasting your time/I'm sure it is nothing.' I just sit for a moment until the silence and lack of movement is noticeable. And then I repeat very simply and clearly what is wrong and that I would like to see X and Y specialists to rule out A or B. This usually leads to them offering an appointment with a specialist.

This is amazing advice.

TheLivelyViper · 10/09/2025 17:24

hellotomrw · 10/09/2025 17:04

Yes it says so in my op that my appointment is on Friday

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Sorry I meant, a scan, as in do you think your GP will refer you for one? Do you have a good relationship with your GP? Sometimes reception may know one with a special interest in women's health, they tend to he better and know more about your specific area provision, hospitals etc.

Also what were the swabs you got for? As in what did they test. Would you be willing to get an ablation, as that can be a good option but I would want some scans again to double check that fibroids haven't grown etc, if not then it's mierna, ablation or a hysterectomy, whilst waiting your GP can prescribe tranexamic acid and/or northisterone and that should help. Do you have any other symptoms you want resolved or is the bleeding and clots the only issue?

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