I am 49 and have been having menopause symptoms for a few years (the usual hot flush, loss of libido, low mood, thinning hair etc etc) and am on HRT. I'm not too bad but I'm struggling a bit with stress incontinence. I need to wee if I have a cup of tea, and I can't hold my pee like I used to. Once I start, I have to keep going! The sound of running water also seems to start some kind of involuntary reaction that makes me need to pee immediately. It's starting to make me anxious about stuff like going to the gym because sneezing or coughing have become high risk activities. It's not much that comes out, but some does. I am single and this is putting me off dating as I could not feel less sexy. Wearing Tena pads would probably mean I'd stay celibate forever. Is this common? Is there anything I can do about it? I have Vagirux but I don't think it's making much difference.