I'm so embarrassed that I'm even having to write this to be honest...
I split with my DP of 4 years earlier this year and had a casual relationship with a man for the last month or so. I am pretty sensible when it comes to practicing safe sex and made sure we were both clear of STIs before we started sleeping together, however, I have since become aware that herpes is not tested for on a regular check as you must be displaying symptoms to test positive and blood tests can be largely inaccurate.
We last slept together a week ago today. The very next day I was experiencing a foul smelling discharge and there was a little spotting too. The spotting has gone away but the discharge remained. I also had some irritation around the vagina entrance but this has cleared completely so think it was as a result of a lot of sex tbh.
I put this down to potential BV and for the last 3 days have been using OTC gels to treat it and the smell does seem to be shifting. My only concern is the following:
On Tuesday I noticed a few little twinges in the vagina area, but I am very health anxious and I feel like my brain could be playing tricks on me tbh seeing as I had read this is a symptom of the start of herpes. I have had no spots or any sores crop up on the vagina since then but 2 days ago experienced some soreness in my bum, again I'm not sure if this was just overwiping or a totally different issue but I began to worry. I then noticed one tiny spot on the edge of my bum crack area but this has basically faded away after a day so I'm not overly concerned.
Today my left vagina lip, like the skin on it just feels a bit sensitive. Again, not sure if the BV gel could have irritated it as it was a bit messy applying last night? But I'm now of course worried again.
I can't go to a clinic to be checked as I have no open sores for them to swab. I am really praying it is nothing and that my brain is in overdrive. I have none of the typical flu like symptoms. I do have a bit of a cough and cold atm but no aching or headaches etc. From what I have read online herpes is extremely itchy as well and I haven't had this either? Spotting in a yellow/watery discharge also doesn't seem to be very common with it? I have also sent off a home test kit for Chlamydia and gonorrea so should receive those results early next week.
Has anyone experienced anything similar? It's such a horrible waiting game, like I'm constantly checking if any spots have appeared and it's just making me feel low. I have btw just started CBT for my health related anxiety which I'm hoping will help in the future! It's safe to say I won't be going near a man for a long time!!!