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Original poster

Right, have got to shift this flab!

48 replies

FlamingoBingo · 10/08/2011 15:10

I'm so sick of it, it's making me miserable. I lost over two stone over the course of 18m a while ago, and have put on over a stone since then, and I really hate myself for it!

So what can I do to lose it again?

Problems:

Cannot get myself back into calorie counting or the up day-down day diet, both of which worked really well last time

Cannot get myself back into loving running, which really helped too

Very short on time

Very short on will-power

Swing from 'I've got to lose this flab' to 'Oh fuck it, who cares!' - NOT helpful.

Please, please help me!

OP posts:
LittleDragon · 10/08/2011 16:40

I'm the same. I have very little willpower and can't afford to go back to slimming world which helped before. I have back problems so can't do much exercise. I've got 5 years to get down to my ideal weight for my wedding now the date has been put back. We're also ttc so any loss would be good.

cyb · 10/08/2011 16:42

Ok stop with the 'I've got no willpower I cant do it' crap

Put your trainers on. Tonight. And go running. Stop making excuses. Do it the day after tomorrow too, for half an hour, walk some of the way if you have to. Write it on your calendar so you make time for it

Eat smaller meals. Smaller plates help. Dont eat between meals. Stop eating sugar/white bread if you can.

Consider yourself slapped across the MN face Grin

And poster with back problems, there are lots of things you can do, power walking for one

cyb · 10/08/2011 16:47

Having a friend to do it with is a great help btw

LittleDragon · 10/08/2011 17:16

I walk a lot anyway. We have a round trip of about half a mile to town which we walked today. I've just started trying to control portion sizes. Bought some breakfast plates which are about half the size of our dinner plates. I use splenda rather than sugar and wholemeal bread. I know a lot of my problem is with comfort eating.

cyb · 10/08/2011 17:19

Sorry littledragon but a round trip of half a mile will make no difference.

Sorry to sound harsh but you've got to walk further than that, and faster

Only you can control your 'comfort eating' and its not bringing you much comfort now is it? Its making you bloody miserable. Make a choice for your health and your body shape will follow suit

Sorry if I sound mean, dont mean to beSmile

Original poster
FlamingoBingo · 10/08/2011 17:25

Haha Cyb - that's what I needed to hear!

I can't go tonight :( Or tomorrow :( or Friday :( Will go Saturday for definite...and Monday...etc.

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cyb · 10/08/2011 17:27

Yes! you should be scared! I am coming at this from a similar place, i was always really fit and exercised a lot, then changed my job and things (and my body) slipped

But unless your brains in the right place, you can't do it

I hope I havent upset little dragon Blush

Original poster
FlamingoBingo · 10/08/2011 17:37

I know - your brain has to be in the right place.

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cyb · 10/08/2011 17:51

You need to have that moment of absolute clarity where you say to yourself I got myself into this mess- I DID, and I'm the only one who can get me out, not Slimming world, not Weightwatchers, ME.

And I can either carry on eating to cover up how I feel , or to make myself feel better for the 3 minutes its in my mouth, or I can do my body the biggest favour ever and be KIND to it and move it and stop stuffing it full so much and feeling disgusted with myself afterwards.

Phew

HowToLookGoodGlaikit · 10/08/2011 18:07

You could have a wee pepp at the Paul McKenna thread and see if its for you? No willpower required Grin

tinker316 · 10/08/2011 18:21

There is a fab app called my fitness pal- def works for me Smile
I have lost 11lbs so far!!
Give it a try Wink

KaySirah · 10/08/2011 19:11

when youa re aconidering chomping
think " will this make me happy?"

IS THIS as good as feeling slimmer?

will this food still be here when I am slimmer

then go and drink a cup of tea

LittleDragon · 10/08/2011 19:17

Cyb u haven't upset me, i know it's wot i need to hear. I am planning to build my exercise routine up but wot should i be aiming for? Tinker i was on that but it won't work on my phone and am now without a computer.

KaySirah · 10/08/2011 19:18

IME excercise makes little diff per se but it WILL distract you from eating

McDreamy · 10/08/2011 19:20

Oooh cyb you could be a virtual personal trainer - you're fab!!!! Grin

cyb · 10/08/2011 19:22

Littledragon try and do something every day, make it part of your day. It can't just be a saunter to the shops (altho thats better than driving) it has to be something to get your heart rate up and you sweating a bit. You wont want to eat crap if you feel pumped up from working harder.

Have you got an ipod? Could you put some good dancey music on that and go for the fastest walk you can ?

cyb · 10/08/2011 19:24

Kay I know you think that about exercise but as one who has stopped exercising for periods it does make a huge diffference to what I can eat and how I feel

BUT j'agree eating less will make biggest difference to waistline

foreverondiet · 10/08/2011 19:39

motovational tips:

  1. Paul McKenna - helps get you in the zone
  2. MFP log what you eat, even if you go over calories - helps you get in control of portion size
  3. Commit to do 30 day shred each night
  4. Drink a cup of water every time you feel peckish
  5. Cut out sugar and refined carbs from your diet; eat protein at each meal
cyb · 10/08/2011 19:44

I dont agree with using anything other than yourself

The only one who wins with the Paul McKenna method is paul McKenna

LittleDragon · 10/08/2011 19:47

No ipod. DP makes me walk at his pace which means i do get out of breath. DP brought me a plate piled high tonight so i put half of it on his plate.

cyb · 10/08/2011 19:51

Good girl, its all those little things that will add up over time Smile. It took a long time for you to put the extra weight on so will take a long time to lose it and more importantly KEEP IT OFF

You have to realise you cannot go back to your old habits.Ever. And you might find some people dont like it if you start to lose weight and change your ways but you have to ignore them!

babycham42 · 10/08/2011 19:59

Excellent thread! cyb you"re certainly inspiring me! I"ve put on weight giving up smoking and I had to be in the right place to do that.I"m now getting to the right place to lose weight.I find it helps imagining myself in a particular situation in the future(eg a social event) and imagining what I will feel if I have lost weight and how I will feel if I haven"t. When I want to eat something I know I shouldn"t I think of that. Mind over matter!

cyb · 10/08/2011 20:03

Yes it feels FABULOUS to be able to do your buttons/zips up comfortably and know you can wear ALL the stuff in your wardrobe, without leaving red welts round your middle

I'm trying to do it too at the moment, have rejoined gym and not eat crap between meals/smaller portions.

We can help each other!

LittleDragon · 10/08/2011 20:11

My DP will support me with whatever changes i want to make. He is the main support i have due to recent events causing rifts in the family. The hardest thing for me is not snacking

LittleDragon · 10/08/2011 20:14

The problem with DP is he's never been overweight so doesn't know what it's like or how to help me.

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