Small question about guests

[knickyknocks]

I'm getting married later this year - it's a fairly small do as money is tight. Most of the guests coming know each other and I have invited their partners.

However, I have 2 close friends who are coming - one is a single mum and I have invited her child plus she knows my close family - and I have another friend who doesn't have a partner or children and doesn't know anyone who is going to be at the wedding.

I took the decision a while ago to let the friend who doesn't know anyone at all to bring another friend (happens to be someone I've met and who's lovely).

Last night, when speaking to the single mum she asked stroppily why she couldn't bring someone else aswell. I said it's because you already know close family at the wedding and have your DC with you. I think she thinks I'm out of order. She said she hates how her DC is used as a reason for things.

What do you think? Am I in the wrong?

It is up to you who you invite. Unless she has an obvious plus one she should go along with your wishes.

I don't think you can win here. If you'd told your single mum friend that you were having s no kids rule, then she may well have objected to that too. Your wedding, your guestlist.

There's a huge difference between a guest who will know no one, and someone who knows lots of adults (not sure her child is relevant really as it would be not knowing anyone to talk to that is isolating) - and when you are on a tight budget, you have to make those calls. I don't think YABU in the least

I think YANBU and your friend is being a bit childish, tbh. Might be different and she would have more of a leg to stand on if you had said she couldn't bring her DC - but as thing stand, she's being daft.
Still, up to her whether she comes or not, innit?

It's your wedding. Invite whomever you like.

Thanks all for your good advice. My feeling was the what you all have said but it's definitely good to hear others saying the same.

Will go ahead with my plan of just inviting her and her DC, and if she has a problem with it, well as thumbwitch said it's up to her if she comes or not.

Maybe tell her she could bring someone with her instead of DC - and she can get a babysitter for the night.

I don't think her kid counts as a +1 does it? In this situation I would have invited her and her DC, with +1
(will be dealing with this soon as my sister is a single mum, and she obviously will know most of the people there, but it will be nice for her to have someone there with her IYSWIM)

I would not have invited any '+1's. If they are single they are single! you don't need to invent extra people to get them all in pairs.
Does she have someone specific in mind she wants to bring? or just wants to make up the numbers?

It's your wedding, don't let people guilt-trip you into inviting extra people you hardly know.