Feeling really stressed!

[NorthernLass50]

We’re getting married in 8 days… been together 15 years and decided to do it a few months ago for sensible reasons but planning a lovely small civil ceremony. It’s a smart/casual low key thing.

Nearly husband ordered his suit about a month ago and Royal Mail were due to deliver it today but haven’t.
This was literally the only thing he had to do!!

He’s convinced it will arrive tomorrow as Royal Mail delivery times are guides and not exact (he says this has happened before and things have arrived the next day).

I know if needs be, he can go into our local town and probably get something off the peg but I’m feeling so wound up tonight.

Help! I feel like sleep is not going to happen and I know being stressed like this is achieving absolutely nothing.

Look in all honesty no one will notice what he’s wearing.. what matters is you both show up on the day to solidify your commitment.. so just enjoy that and have a glass of your favourite drink and let it slide…

Bless you.
I can understand your stress. I bet you've had your outfit for a long time, haven't you ?

However, as @COOMACHEO says, and, indeed you did in your OP, if it's not here by Saturday morning he can presumably walk into any local town or City centre and buy himself another one.

I'd still be cross with him, but I guess you know what he's like if you've been together that long. Some people are planners and stressers, other people are less organised, and / or more relaxed.

You can usually collect parcels from the depot if they fail to deliver to your home. However he should have tracking and know when it’s coming. We have found them one of the best for accurate tracking info. What is the scheduled delivery time window? Is it tomorrow?

DHL are the biggest shit show. Local depot is 15 miles from us and they have lied about us not being in. Twice. We were. They were just a no show. Do dh getting his suit from their depot - it’s for DDs wedding! 3 weeks though.

Oh, bless you, of course you’re stressed.

This is his problem, not yours. Like you say - it was the only thing he had to do. So let him do it, worry about it, fix it.

And worry about the 20 things that are your responsibility 😱

Thank you for your replies and support 🥰
I just really wanted to get to being a week away and the only thing I had to do was be excited.

We planned this in 4 months but I got my dress early September.

He genuinely believes he ordered it in good time,

I am going to try and switch off from it; I’m sure it will all be ok on the day. If it doesn’t turn up today, he’ll have to get one at the weekend.

Thanks again. X

@NorthernLass50 He ordered the suit. It will come or he can collect it. No big deal! This is something brides do worry about!

Honestly, no one’s going to notice what he’s wearing. What actually matters is that you both show up on the day and commit to each other. Just enjoy the moment, have a glass of your favourite drink, and let the rest go.

The suit is on its way. You still have 8 days and it's for him to sort. Worse case scenario he goes and buys another suit from a shop. He'll still be in a smart suit and all will be fine.

Relax now and look forward to your day.

@Amylee2051 They will! He’s the centre of attention. Who wants a groom in a manky old suit. The op will notice!

DH has his suit. Hope your fiance does too OP!

Deep breath, it’s completely natural to feel stressed right now, but you don't need to own this problem. That was solely his responsibility, so let him handle the consequences while you direct your focus to what's actually yours to manage.