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Help Me find a wedding dress!

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JustPoppinBy · 10/02/2026 23:05

Ok, so myself and my significant other of many years have finally set a date and booked a venue. I should preface this by telling you that, as much as I really want to be married, I have no excitement for an actual wedding and so we are having what I have recently learned to be called a ‘micro wedding’! There will be 8-10 of us in total, including bride and groom, just very immediate family. It will be a ceremony and a meal and that is all; honestly I suffer terribly with nerves and anxiety and the thought of a wedding just makes me feel queasy! We are however holding it in a really lovely setting, probably if I’m honest, somewhere way too nice for a ‘micro wedding’ but we thought we’ve waited so many years to actually marry that we may as well do it somewhere nice!
So, I need a dress! But here’s the thing, I’m short and very plump 😆 around 5’2 ish and around a uk size 20. The tops of my arms are horrible so I can’t have anything that will show them off and unfortunately I do just carry my weight everywhere. My legs are big. My tummy’s big. My arms are big. The only thing that isn’t that big is my bust 😆 I am fully aware that my figure in a white dress for people to look at is one of the things making me want to vomit at the thought of a wedding, and I am also 40.
In summery, a dress for a plus size girl to suit a very low key wedding but in a beautiful setting. The weather will be warm by the time of the wedding however it is early summer so not the most amount of time to get things sorted either!
Thankyou for ANY help!

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Defiantly41 · 10/02/2026 23:21

For starters, a selection of midi dresses from JL. May not be your kind of thing but a start, if you can say more about colour, pattern etc it will help

do you have ANY dress you feel good in? If so, describe or add a pic and we might find a luxe wedding version

oh, and congratulations!

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Shallysally · 13/02/2026 18:47

Have you an idea of the type of dress you would like? An actual wedding dress, maybe a tea length dress. You can have sleeves added to add coverage to your arms. Wed2b only
sell off the peg dresses and have a list of seamstresses they recommend for alterations.

The Scarlett and Jo dresses that @Defiantly41 has suggested are lovely.

Your venue sounds very similar to mine!

ThatGreatMember · 08/03/2026 09:53

https://www.curvesandcouture.co.uk/curvy-brides-boutique

the ladies on this show were amazing and will make you feel so special.

Curves and Couture | Curvy Brides Boutique

https://www.curvesandcouture.co.uk/curvy-brides-boutique

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