Hi all
So we're planning a secret wedding!! Just us and our children 
then when it's done we have booked a local restaurant and will invite those nearest to us to come and celebrate with a meal which we will pay for BUT the restaurant can only hold a max of 40 (sounds a lot doesn't it) but we have a big family so that only leaves space for 8 friends and that is not including any of DP aunties and uncles or mine it's literally parent (1 each) sisters nieces nephews and like I say a few friends . It's exactly as we want however I fear Fil will be really sad that his brothers and sisters are not coming and we're only inviting one cousin from DP side (out of 35) because she's only one of two we see regularly and one we do the most with.
How do I cause the least upset - or do we scrap the restaurant idea and have a party inviting them all instead??
thanks