As a guest with two DD I will need space for spare shoes, clothes, snacks, pens, ds, iPads. So I will end up taking a tote anyway, so why shell out for a 'clutch' or small shoulder bag that will be shoved inside this tote? Will I look like I'm going shopping tho? I don't have a buggy any more, so nowhere to hang a big bag. Any tips for a nice neutral tote, not expensive ...