Flipping Invites..

[AFreudianSlip]

I have an amazing talented friend who has illustrated our wedding invites and I have just got them printed. We haven't done save the dates as our wedding is just over a year away so thought that we could just get the invites out ASAP and save a bit of money. We have got the main invite (day and evening), address details, RSVP details and an accommodation list. I've just realised I have not put anything about gifts, we don't expect anything and don't want gifts but if people do want to then we would really really appreciate them contributing to our honeymoon pot. Should I get something written out to send with the invites or should I just not say anything? I really don't want to end up with loads of wine glasses or towels ..but in general if people wanted to give and there was nothing said what would they do??

Tia

They would ask!

If I don't have something I really know they will like in mind, then I say "do you have a wedding list?" Then you can either give people a little slip with the info on or say money for honeymoon.

Ok. Would they think it unusual? Do most people have something in with their invites or is it 50/50?

I really regret putting something in with my invitations to my first wedding, but it is really common to do it.

It used to be when parents hosted and invited to weddings, that people contacted them about gifts if they wanted to. You could put your mother's name/contact details for the RSVPs if you like, then they would contact her.

Just print off slips saying you're not expecting/don't need gifts. People will WANT to give something though, I personally don't see the problem with asking for donations (prepares for abuse ) towards something big you need/honeymoon!

I would never have thought of putting anything on the invitation, but I've been married 20 years, so what do I know?

This is exactly what I did - attached a note saying that we did not want gifts but money for the honeymoon would be lovely if people wanted to give something, and a request for their three fave songs so we could play these at the reception for them. Everyone loved the song idea and no one has said to our faces anyway, that they are offended about the money bit.