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Would this be stupid? I really want to...DH reluctant.

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PinkPolkaDots · 12/04/2012 17:41

Dh and I have been married for 2.5 years. We had a perfect day, everything went to plan and exactly as we wanted etc etc.
However, my only regret is the photos.
We didn't use a professional photographer and just had a family friend who does a lot of serious photography on the side, so very good and used a great camera.
However all the photos we have are very informal, and his pics look just the same as the ones all the guests took, IYSWIM.
My regret is that we didn't have any posed pics just the two of us, none in the grounds of the gorgeous venue, etc.

I would like to go back to the venue at some point and have some professional photography done - just us two in our wedding day outfits, in and around the venue - nothing amazing or spectacular, just what we should have done on the day.
The venue are more than ok with this, they even offered to re create our wedding in terms of the decoration as much as they could.

My DH thinks its a bit silly - he says we had our wedding day and we missed the opportunity. He's not 100% against it, and I'm sure I could force him twist his arm into it (especially by guilting him into it as I gave him a list of posed/more formal pics that I wanted on the day but he forgot to pass it on to the photographer so his fault really! )

would it be really daft?
If anyone ever asked, I would never pretend the pics were taken on the actual day - by the time we get round to it it would be 3 years after the actual day!
I would just treat it as a cherish the dress style shoot I suppose

Thoughts, anyone?

TIA

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CupOfBrownJoy · 12/04/2012 17:45

Umm tbh it sounds a bit daft, but if its what you want to do, then why not?

This fashion for "reportage" photography had led to a lot of my friends absolutely hating their wedding photos after the day itself, and regretting that they didn't have more traditional shots.

I'm getting married this summer and we have a friend of DF's doing the photos. He's under instructions to just take as many as humanly possible, but I have prewarned him that I want to do formal shots outside the registry office and in the garden of the restaurant where we're having lunch even if DF thinks that formal shots are a bit wanky, I don't care

They are the ones which will be going into frames in my and DM's and DMIL's living room....

NatashaBee · 12/04/2012 17:50

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Bletchley · 12/04/2012 17:55

I don't think it's daft. It won't even take that long or be that big a deal. Go for it!

Fluffycloudland77 · 14/04/2012 21:08

I dont think it's daft. We had to have indoor photos, it's not the same.

KatieMiddleton · 14/04/2012 21:11

Can you still fit in your dress? I know 2.5 years later I couldn't. Blasted post baby body

WhatTheCatDraggedIn · 14/04/2012 21:21

I think it sounds a bit odd and if your DH is not keen it might not be a particularly enjoyable experience.

Why don't you buy some nice new outfits and book a photography session in a studio - we did this on DD's 1st birthday and got some fabulous photos.

Or could you get some clever photographer to photoshop your old photos into something you like?

you can still fit into your dress.

Grabaspoon · 14/04/2012 21:24

I think photos of the 2 of you in nice outfits as opposed to wedding outfits would be nicer.

remote · 14/04/2012 21:49

The thing is they'll never be your wedding photos and when you look at them they won't remind you of your wedding, just a day you had some photos taken.

VodkaJelly · 14/04/2012 22:22

What Grabaspoon said, cant you both buy some really nice new clothes and have some lovely new photo's wearing them instead of your wedding dress? As remote said, you will always know that they were not taken at your wedding day

Springforward · 14/04/2012 22:29

I like the renewal of vows, then pics idea.

KatieMiddleton · 14/04/2012 23:31

Oh god please don't renew your vows. Dreadfully tacky

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 14/04/2012 23:38

I wouldn't do it. It wouldn't be any better than not having the photos as it's not the wedding day. You can't capture the look/feeling/glow... I'd feel daft too.

threeleftfeet · 06/05/2012 11:46

Why not?! If you want to, go for it. It'll be a lovely a picture of you at the age you got married (well nearly!) in your wedding outfits.

When you're old you'll be able to look back at this time as newly weds, even if it's not your actual wedding day, and it'll be a lovely picture to have in the family.

Teeb · 07/05/2012 16:25

Are there none of the 'natural' pictures that you could zoom in on to capture a happy look/memory and use that to be framed? Sometimes you just need to look at the pictures you already have in a different light.

PorkyandBess · 07/05/2012 16:31

I'm sorry to say I think it sounds very daft indeed.

AThingInYourLife · 07/05/2012 16:32

I can't imagine anything more pointless.

FuckedOfftotheFarSideofFuck · 07/05/2012 16:39

I think

do what you want and
it'll be fun to prance around in your wedding clothes.

Why not book a night in a hotel the night before the nurture a little buzz and excitement?!

Yeah, it's a bit silly but who cares?!
We were lucky, we had no designated or official photographer but we have one photo from our wedding that I really love so that's all we need!

Oakmaiden · 07/05/2012 16:40

Why not just go for a photo shoot together somewhere (not necessarily in the wedding venue)? You could have a few taken in your dress, and some taken in other clothes. My sister does loads of "Rock the Frock" shoots, where people put on their wedding dresses and go off to have their photos done....

nkf · 07/05/2012 16:42

I like informal wedding photos so I'd say no. But if you don't then get DH drunk and go for it.

BeaOnSea · 07/05/2012 16:45

I agree with those saying just do a photo shoot if it's just more formal pictures you are after.

No point in recreating the wedding venue.

jamaisjedors · 07/05/2012 16:49

I wouldn't.

And I speak as one who absolutely hates her own wedding photos.

The done thing here (in France) is to get them done before the wedding (so we were married at 4pm, got the photos done at 12ish.

I would love to have a really nice photo of me and DH at our wedding, but they are all posed and forced.

I bet you could find some clothes you look nicer in than your wedding dress (white is not everyone's colour!) and you could get some nice photos done.

But, as others have said, photos are all about the memory behind them which is why I have 2 big boxes of crappy wedding photos that people sent me but I can't bear to throw out maybe go somewhere special (not the wedding venue), have a lovely day together and then get some photos taken during that day.

iscream · 08/05/2012 09:36

You could do it for your anniversary. Perhaps just one formal pose.

Says the person who got married at city hall and only has a couple of snapshots, and now wishes they had a professional photo wearing a wedding gown.

GoPoldark · 08/05/2012 09:40

I don't think it's a silly idea at all, people dress up and go and get professional photos done all the time e.g. with the kids, so why not?

What I'd do is make it an anniversary thing though. How about going away somewhere lovely for your next ann, for a weekend, taking your dress/suit and booking an hour's shoot at somewhere lovely - castle, stately home, somewhere with wee bridge over bubbling brook etc.

If your anniversary is at a cold dark time of year, do it now though. Or next time the blossom is out.

Mosman · 17/05/2012 07:25

Can you afford it ?

If so it sounds lovely, we are renewing our vows for no other reason than we had 2 of our kids at our wedding and now we have 4 so we want the extra bridesmaids in the photo's.
Why not.

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