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Getting married but no friends!

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BlushingBlind · 20/03/2012 06:44

Hi,
My DP and I have been together for some time and we have decided to get married.

I have a bit of an issue though! I have no friends, as i lost them when i had DS 6 years ago (first to have a child, couldn't go out etc)

So anyway, i'm really worried about getting married and no one will even want to celebrate with us. We do have one couple who we are friends with that (hopefully) will be our witnesses.

I did have a point and questions...

Do you think we could just run off and get married and tell everyone later?
WWYD?

OP posts:
iscream · 20/03/2012 06:56

Yes, you could run off, or have a ceremony with your friends who will stand for you.
Do you have any family you would want to be there?

Original poster
BlushingBlind · 20/03/2012 08:18

I suppose my mum and his mum and DS but then I'd have to think about other family like his sisters etc.

I am mostly scared that no one will want to come and it will be like
My 18th birthday all over again with just me and my mum in a big hall.

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lesley33 · 20/03/2012 08:22

Could you just plan a very small wedding - tell people you want a very small do. Invite just the couple and a few family. Have ceremony and then go for a posh meal afterwards?

Sorry to hear about your 18th - that sounds awful Sad

Original poster
BlushingBlind · 20/03/2012 08:45

Thanks I knew you'd have good ideas!

Been worrying as I have no real friends to ask but I suppose in a way it will make things easier - and cheaper.

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BikeRunSki · 20/03/2012 09:01

Have you really not met any new mummy friends since you had DS? Otherwise yes, have a small discrete do. 150 people eating chicken kiev in Coast dresses in a country hotel is not compulsory!

lesley33 · 20/03/2012 09:41

I actually know people with lots of friends who have chosen to have a tiny do. So don't worry that staff at restaurant, family, etc will assume you have few friends or no friends. They will just assume either that was what you have chosen or that you have very little money and had to limit the number of guests.

I remember another poster posting on MN talking about how she got married abroad as she had no friends and only her mother to invite. She was so worried about looking like billy no mates in comparison to her DH and his family, that she chose to go abroad just the two of them. So don't think you are the only one this affects.

bagelmonkey · 20/03/2012 09:46

I think an intimate wedding sounds much nicer. Just immediate family and maybe 1 or 2 close friends.
Plus you'll have a lot more money for a honeymoon :)

pinktrees · 20/03/2012 09:50

You're right OP it does make things easier.

I went to reg. office with my DH, we took our parents and siblings and that was it. Afterwards we went to a restaurant (all that we had prebooked was the table) and people just ordered what they wanted as though it was a normal meal. It was wonderful and 10 yrs on we have never regretted it.

Cheap as well!

NatashaBee · 20/03/2012 09:54

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AgathaFusty · 20/03/2012 10:20

We had a tiny wedding also - just my parents as witnesses. It was fine, we told others in the family after the event.

I would suggest either going abroad or making a lovely romantic thing of going to Gretna Green and maybe having a fab night in a castle or something like that afterwards.

It is not the wedding that is important, it is the marriage that you build between you afterwards that matters.

MadameChinLegs · 20/03/2012 10:30

What about a ceremony as late as possible, then straight out for a nice dinner at a fancy restaurant with your respective families?

Original poster
BlushingBlind · 21/03/2012 17:54

Hi everyone thank you so much for giving me some lovely ideas.
I think we will have to have a nice long discussion about it and what DP wants too.
Thanks again x

OP posts:
Frontpaw · 21/03/2012 17:58

Small sounds lovely, and better than inviting a bunch of people over just for the sake of it.

Of course, we'd all come!

AgathaFusty · 21/03/2012 18:57

Let us know what you decide Smile

5babyangels · 24/03/2012 23:01

We aren't inviting out children so friends are definitely not compulsory. We are having a church wedding in 4 weeks with no siblings either, dh is not even invited his mum. He has 6 guests, I currently have 3, actually may invite one more but not convinced! I only have a couple of true friends! Everyone else is a bit distant these days. We are taking my children and his children to Thorpe park the following week so only our baby will be there. Then going for posh do at the grand hotel. Quite excited! Do whatever is right for you! And regarding the lack of friends bit, your dh will be your best friend Wink also when your little one goes to school you'll probably meet more people. I've had patches of time with little, or no friends, it can be difficult to give them enough time sometimes and in the mean time we are all here for you Grin

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