HV putting fear of god into me...please help!

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Hi, I need some advice please, badly!
My DD is nearly 7 months now and all over the place with her food and I wasnt particularly worried UNTIL I spoke to the HV yesterday.
DD loved her food and was happily eating most things plus breastmilk then suddenly started to refuse food.
I tried her with a jar and she wolfed it down so I figured that she just didnt like my cooking so I abandoned the home cooked foods (which,by the way,were the Annabel Karmel recipies and I liked them!)and started on the jars. Now she is refusing everything.
I thought, oh well as long as shes taking her milk I wont force it and phoned the HV just to get some reassurance.
!!!
Now I feel like I'm doing everything wrong!
HV said that DD HAS to be having three solid meals a day because she can't get all she needs from my milk anymore and has given me a list of all the food groups she has to have in a day.
It is incredibly intimidating and now I'm so stressed out about it all. I have no one to ask as my friends babies all ate whatever was put in front of them,my mum cant remember and my gran wanted to give DD a bit of whisky in her milk so I dont think I'd better ask her!
Has anyone else experienced this?
Sorry, long one!

She's talking bollocks, ds1 hardly ate any solids until 9-12 months.

Ignore her honestly I got an invite from my HV when ds2 was 3 months to a weaning party, wtf?

flack, iron supplements are not given to breastfed babies as a rule in the UK - are you posting from somewhere else?

There is normally need to give iron supps.

don't stress about the food - I used to and it made mine and dd's life miserable. Now some meals she eats and some meals she doesn't and it doesn't seem to affect her sleeping or anything else! She decreased the amount of milk she drank herself - but I get more worried about her not having milk than solid food.

I also find that after a couple of days of refusing solids she goes on to develop a cold so doesn't feel like food.

Oh - and ignore your HV!

Hi, sorry I havnt replied sooner,I had a NIGHTMARE of a day with her yesterday teething and a temperature so I guess that answers my question.
I feel a bit of a tit now
I'm going to tell my HV that shes fired,it'll probably come as some relief to her as I'm always phoning with inane questions usually relating to matters of poo!(ha, I did it again!!)
Anyone else want the job
Seriously though, I'm quite annoyed as (obviously) I have no confidence in myself and I'm wondering how many other mothers shes upsetting and stressing out.
Regarding the late feeding, I only wondered as my friends FOUR MONTH!! old gets his last feed at 7pm and sleeps through until 7am.
It sounded good to me but I think shes just lucky.
Cow!

Glad you have sackedtheHV decided to widen your circle of advisors!

Worrying is an essential part of having a PFB, no matter how laid back you are.

Have you considered BLW?

Hi there. I've just been through same thing. I was using Annabel Karmel recipes and ds loved them. He was on 3 solid meals within 2 weeks of starting to wean. (He very big boy). He was doing so so well. Then a little while ago just started messing about and wouldn't eat a thing. So, like you I figured he didn't like my cooking and switched to jars. That was fine for few days then nothing again. He didn't even seem bothered about food.
Fine now, eating lots again so I figured teething. Your dc'll prob be fine in a few days. Don't worry too much for now, just keep offering food.
Don't listen to hv either. Chat pure shit