One year old not weaned!!

[Daenarys]

DS2 is now 12months. He has refused anything from a spoon since starting weaning at 6 months, and the most he has ate is a tiny nibble at some broccoli stalks and he will take a fruit puree from a pouch intermittently. Everything else is a no go and I am at my wits end with worry about him

He is otherwise well and developing normally. His weight has dropped a centile so he is being reweighed next month byt health visitor is stumped.

He was exclusively breast fed first 6 months. He is still.breastfeeding now and this is obviously his main source of nutrition but I worry about him missing out on other vital stuff and also not learning how to physically chew and swallow!! But I don't know how to make him eat.

I work full time so he is left 10h a day so he does get the chance to be hungry. He wint even take a bottle so is just having water and a bit of fruit pouch in that time.

To help, he is CMPA and egg allergic.

Any advice would be appreciated esp from those who have been through this. I am so.worried for him, feel like a complete failure and dont know what to do.

have you tried baby led weaning just skip the pouches entirely and offer just what ever your eating. Allergy's in mind of course ,just soft chopped and placed in front of them.Just full variety of food see what he takes a fancy to .Usually its low salt but from a year they can eat everything

In this style of weaning they pick and choose what they want to eat,they watch you eat and eventually get the idea to eat them selves.It starts off with play,a bit of gagging on new food but they learn.This is mine at just 6 months .

I would just keep sitting him at table with you and providing him with what you're eating to explore. No stress no care if he eats anything. Good luck!

As above pop him in his highchair at meal times with food in his tray and let him pick it up, mush it, try it if he wants. He will eventually eat something.

I think you should sit him in a high chair offer him food and see how it goes will he pick up bits if fruit. Who looks after him during the day ?

My multi allergy son was the same.
We saw pediatricians, dieticians, various gps, health visitors, etc.

I kept giving him food when I ate, and left food lying about that he could nibble on.
Eventually, he stole a chip covered in ketchup from his sisters McDonalds, and never looked back. It was about a week after his second birthday!
In hindsight, I think he had associated eating with pain due to his allergies, and just didn't want to eat.
Hes 13 now, and eats me out of house and home. Youd never know the difficulties he had as a baby.
I really have no advice, but at least you know you're not the only one. I don't think any of the experts had any idea, and, because he was putting weight on (very very slowly), they weren't too concerned.

My dd was a fussy eater we weaned earlier in the 90s I am sure it caused her stomach issues, anyway the HV also advised us to have little bits of food abput the house she could graze on and give her meals at meal times and let her eat what she wants or not, it worked for us.

My younger dd steadfastly refused food until over the age of 1 (I can't remember exactly but I think she started to crack eating at about 15 months). EBF. I was like a rag, completely exhausted. She's 35 now and a totally normal vigorous working human being. Hang in there OP

Oh and you're NOT A FAILURE. You're a good mum with a fussy baby.

DS2 is now 12months. He has refused anything from a spoon since starting weaning at 6 months

I'd ditch the spoons and just put a variety of foods in front of him in a high chair at every meal time. Let him take what he wants.

Agree with putting different foods on the tray.
Try to not let him know you are watching him and try not to make a huge fuss if he does eat or if he doesn't.
The more I fussed and encouraged, the more DS would refuse.
I also wasn't too fussed on whether foods offered were particularly good or bad foods tbh. Just getting him used to food was a step in the right direction.
He will get there.

Thanks all for the replies you have reassured me that he should start eating. Will keep putting food in front of him and just let him get on with it. Ah...the stress of mum life!