DS is 9mo and has no teeth.
He has 5oz bottles every four hours from when he wakes about 8ish. In-between bottles we do breakfast, lunch and dinner.
We're lucky if he drinks 3oz of his daytime bottles as he's too interested in everything else going on. So we give him a 7oz bottle right before bed which he guzzles. But then he's up for a whole 7oz bottle at around 12 and again around 4.
Breakfast is fruit or toast or eggs. Lunch tends to be a cooked meal that's a bit lighter, or veg with humous, and then dinner it's fish/sausage with veg and potatoes, mash, pasta.
We started off spoon feeding, and he did well. But then mixed in some baby led, and he was away. He hates being spoon fed. He just has a tantrum and clamps his mouth shut. If I puree up something for him (rare nowadays) he will at best let me take the spoon from him, scoop up food, then hand back to him to out in his mouth). So we do baby led every day.
He comes in the kitchen in his highchair and I get on with dishes, meal prep, our tea or washing whilst frequently engaging with him. No issues there, he is mostly very happy at meal times. Laughing and gurgling away.
However, he puts it all in his mouth and does well, but then he just spits it out once he's chewed it to a point. It seems like he's barely eating much of it at all.
I really thought at this stage he'd be eating solids well and at least giving me 6/7 hours at night. I don't expect him to go all the way through or anything but considering he has on occasion, I don't understand where we're going wrong.
My DM keeps saying to force the spoon feeding as he should be taking in more solids and he'll sleep through then. Tbh I'm not too fussed about the sleeping through (would be nice) and I'm happy to be solely baby led but I'm worried he's having way too much milk and not enough solids and he's nearly 12 months and at that point he shouldn't be having formula.
If anyone can see anything really wrong I'm doing, or has any suggestions I'd be eternally grateful. Sorry it's a bit rambly.