Really stressing and worrying even though I know I shouldn't!

[MumMumMumma]

I have been weaning for 4 weeks now and DD will be 7 months in a few days. We do breakfast and lunch and when I eat dinner I just set aside whatever veg for her (plain) for her to play with she puts in her mouth but doesn't eat.
Anyway, it's so hit and miss, she doesn't eat much at breakfast as I keep thinking I time it wrong, She wakes at 6 but doesn't have bottle until 6.45 so when I leave it for an hour after she is tired and wants nap ( usually naps 2 hrs after waking). I tried after her nap but then that's an hour before her next bottle is due and I don't know when to give her bottle then. Lunch she sometimes eats and sometimes doesn't want it. so concerned that she has her milk intake as at the start I think it dropped too much and she was night waking. As you can see, I'm all in a flap and I'm not very good at this weaning malarkey.
I am fine when I know what to do, when I can follow a pattern or loose guidance but weaning is so vast and varied when it comes to what to do that I feel lost and it's really getting to me.
I don't know what I expect to hear from you guys and please don't flame me for being neurotic mum with pfb :)

I would just keep offering exactly the same milk feeds as before.

If she is awake during a meal time, sit down with her and eat some food together. Doesn't matter if she eats next to nothing at this point.

NHS recommends they start having 3 meals a day by around 9 months. Milk still provides the majority of their needs until around 12 months.

I can whole heartedly sympathise as I am the same insofar as having some kind of 'routine' to follow and as you say, weaning is so vast and there are no hard and fast rules (wish there were as it'd make it easier!).

Anyway I am a little further down the line (my DD is nearly 8 months). We do 2 solid feeds a day - breakfast and dinner. My DD has 4 milk feeds a day, at. 4 hourly intervals (give or take). And like your DD has been napping around 2 hours after waking from last nap.

If my DD has her bottle at say 06:30, and naps at say 08:15/08:30, I will get everything ready while she's asleep (sippy cup, bowl, spoon, porridge, banana etc) and feed her as soon as she gets up.

It may be that her next bottle is then due only an hour or so later but that's fine. They are generally expected to take a bit less milk when weaning so wouldn't worry too much.

Can you not give your DD a bottle at 6 when she wakes? That may help with your timings??

God I think I'm too far ahead, my lo is 8 months next Fri, I've dropped him to 3 7oz bottles and he's on 3 meals with yogurt/fruit/pudding after lunch and dinner. He'll only eat packet foods at the minute I'm currently trying to sort this out and try blw, but I'm thinking I'm feeding him too much now