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Weaning

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help - weaning going all wrong

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gingernutlover · 04/03/2006 20:38

dd has been weaning since 19 wks (now 25wks) she was happliy guzzling her bottles (4x6oz a day) plus 3 small meals and seemed to really be enjoying it, now the last few days she has screeeeeeeeeamed after just a few mouthfuls of her solids and refused more although happily plays with fingerfoods. She has ben drinking her bottles well so I guess she is getting what she needs.

Just a bit confused really and not sure how to proceed???????? Should I keep offering her the solids at the same times and remove when she becomes upset (she eats the 1st few mouthfuls happily) and just see what happens or is this a sign of somthing else I am missing?

Have been to FIL's today and feeling very inadequate after fraught discussions on evrerything related to dd.

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NotQuiteCockney · 04/03/2006 20:52

She doesn't actually need solids at this point. I'd offer the solids and stop when she becomes even a tiny bit upset. Keep offering finger foods, and don't get stressed about it all.

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gingernutlover · 04/03/2006 20:55

thankyou - am worried about giving her a complex about eating

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 04/03/2006 20:58

Agree with NQC. Keep the solids basic if you are going to continue to offer them.

NotQuiteCockney · 04/03/2006 21:02

It's not so much about not starting a complex, it's about not turning food into a battleground. It's really easy to end up in big struggles with your baby about food.

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gingernutlover · 04/03/2006 21:22

yes, the battles started toi begin with milk and when we just relaxed about it things improved. Will try the same with solids

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Squarer · 04/03/2006 21:34

Agree with what people have said - I started my DS n sloids at around 24/25 weeks. I think I did it then as I was aware that 6 months was upon us so it needed doing. I never once fought with him over it - I would try him on pureed this that and the other and he would have a couple of spoonfuls and turn his head. I took this as my cue to stop (and by stopping I mean for a few days/weeks). Time ticked by, neither of us stressed about anything. At 12 months, he was still on mainly bottles but out of the blue, his need for food kicked in and he was grabbing for everything and now eats like a horse.

FWIW I ignored everyone who told me he should be on 3 square meals a day followed by puddings (One of these people have suggested on several occaisions that a tin of Heinz Big Soup served with some Smash is great as it gives them all their veggies, not to forget the classic why do I just give him water with his meals, he should be on juice and tea).

He didn't want it (solids)- short of tube feeding it wasn't going to happen. Find your confidence and whatever you do, don't feel inadequate. Find your confidence and listen to/look at what your DD is telling you when you offer her solids.

Squarer · 04/03/2006 21:36

ah - now sloids I would generally avoid totally. Perhaps that was my problem.. offering those instead of solids

Louly · 04/03/2006 22:57

My dd is 26 weeks and has shown interest in food but when i started her a few weeks ago she just doesn't want it! Not going to worry as she is still taking bottles ok and is still gaining weight. HV suggested just trying dd with finger food like rusk. I have done this over the last few days and she seems to like this more. She likes to hold her new food and does end up eating some of it but not much. Perhaps she is going to be a hands on girl?!
Your dd will be ok and will let you know when it is time to pick up the pace again. Only a thought but is she teething, this may disrupt her a bit?

eve2005 · 04/03/2006 23:01

solids at this point is mostly about giving your dd the opportunity to try a wide variety of flavours, not stuffing her full of food. if she's hungry you'll know about it trust me! in the meantime relax and don't push her.

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gingernutlover · 05/03/2006 09:35

thanks for all the advice - i will just go with the flow. yesterday she picked at her 3 meals, drank her bottles and still slept through so I am not too worried but ...

... am really confused though, as for the first 3-4 weeks she gobbled all her meals down and I was worried she was eating too much! It is poss she is teething I guess or maybe it was just the novelty that caused her to gobble her food or even a growth spurt?!?!?!

I should prob mention we have just been on holiday, and the pickiness started the day before we came home, now I think about it, this has been happening since syhe went to the creche at center parcs - they gave her her lunch and she only managed half of what she nmormally does with them but I put that down to being somewhere different. I now wonder whether being fed at creche has started all this - but maybe reading too much into it?

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NotQuiteCockney · 05/03/2006 13:49

You know babies, they're just random and strange. I wouldn't get too bothered about it. She'll eat more sometime soon. Then she'll eat less again. Just keep offering, and don't sweat it. As long as all the offered food is good food, it doesn't matter if she eats loads today and nothing tomorrow.

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gingernutlover · 05/03/2006 17:27

has eaten 3 small meals today - average 1.5 ice cubes each time and has nibbled on rice cakes, banana and apple

NQC you are right - she is random and strange

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gingernutlover · 05/03/2006 19:27

and that's the polite way of saying it

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gingernutlover · 12/03/2006 10:17

help!!!!!!!!!

things have gone from bad to worse

dd now has bad cold and cough and is barely drinking 15oz of milk a day and is refuseing most food. Really worried about her. HV just said to carry on offering milk and solids at the times we normally do - ie try to stay roughly in routine - but she just doesn't seem hungry. How long can she go on like this? is making me feel really down as she was so enjoying her food and now it feels like every day is a nightmare.

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elclose · 12/03/2006 11:39

Hi
Maybe she is teething this can put them right off food, my 2 wre like this when getting a tooth xx

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gingernutlover · 12/03/2006 11:51

think it may be teething and cold - but has been going on 10 days now and we are very worried about her

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jazzyp · 12/03/2006 20:09

Have you tried speaking to NHS Direct? 0845 4647. When my dd was projectile vomiting for a day she worried me senseless so I called them. They were really helpful (unlike most of the HV's!) and talked us through what to look for - biggest problem to be careful of is dehydration. They referred me to the out of hours GP who suggested some things to try getting the fluids into her.

Useful tips the GP told me - on top of babies heads is the fontanelle (soft spot). When baby is hungry or dehydrated the soft spot is indented - run your finger over the top of the head and you'll feel if it dips down. Otherwise it will feel level. Other signs of dehydration are dry mouth and if you press the skin it doesn't bounce back immediately.

When they have colds it does tend to turn things upside down. So long as she's not dehydrated she'll start eating again when she's ready.

mojomummy · 12/03/2006 20:39

I would leave off all solids for a couple of days, continue with the milk & she if she's a bit happier.

if you want to re-introduce, then do so, one 'meal' a day.

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gingernutlover · 15/03/2006 10:33

yeh!!!!!!!!!

she is back on the food - well for now anyway

yesterday she had

4oz milk
1/2 weetabix with 2oz milk
3oz milk
cheesy veg and 1 petit filous
6oz milk
sweet potato and rice pudding
6oz milk

am so relieved, she is now opening her moutha dn lunging towards food, must have been teeth and cold - guess i knew this deep down but I am the queen of panickers!!

thanks for all the fab advice and support.

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mojomummy · 15/03/2006 18:09

glad she's ok again

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