When did your DC start using spoon, fork etc? Our DS has never been into eating off spoons (he shoves the food off pre-loaded ones!) and if we give him cutlery to practice eating with he basically ends up playing, not eating. I've tried introducing it at the beginning of the meal (doesn't eat) and at the end (isn't hungry so doesn't eat).
I'm starting to wonder when he will get it. And if it matters? He's starting nursery next week though and I'm sure he's going to look like some messy barbarian compared to the other children.