Revolted by eating animal products.

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I am a recent vegan, and perhaps surprisingly went straight from hardened carnivore to plant based.

It was a snap decision, I literally woke up one day and decided never to eat meat or dairy etc again, but mainly from an ethical and environmental viewpoint. However, after a few weeks I have found myself completely revolted by the thought, feel, smell of animal products. To the point that I’m struggling to cook family meals.

Is this usual? I do have form for being very all or nothing but this has shocked me with the strength of feeling. My family are happy to go meat-light but not vegan and as a SAHM (DH works long hours) it’s not really something I can delegate. I also have to cook chicken for my very fussy chihuahua.

How do you square it?

I'm recently turned vegetarian ( not ready for vegan yet) and I'm starting to feel the same .
My dh is very much carnivore and luckily works away a lot but I will have to deal with meat at some point 😬..

Cook's privilege....you're making, your choice.

I feel the same although I was raised vegetarian. I don’t cook with or handle meat and I don’t like the meat aisle of the supermarket but oddly enough can handle (meat based) cat food.

I can relate with you, OP. I'm often a 'all or nothing' person, too. I've started eating a more plant based diet mostly to reduce my own effect on the environment, but experiencing similar thoughts as you are.

I actually used to be vegetarian in my youth, but when I moved in with DH, I started eating meat again, as he's a big meat lover. It's always been a bit of a cognitive dissonance and source of discomfort for me, though. DH also works while I don't, so I do most of our cooking. He's perfectly happy to eat whatever I make, but will crave meat, too. He's making little comment about how the pasta would be nicer with a bit of mince etc. I'm just shrugging it off. He can buy and make whatever he likes if the craving gets too much for him.

I’m the same. The thought of flesh and eggs in particular makes me feel very queasy.

Mince is the worst (not envy!)

Can you cook vegan meals for the family which they can add items to? So make a lentil bolognaise, but they can add their own cheese, or make a vegan sausage casserole and they can add diced chorizo? That way all you have to do is put a bowl of cheese / meat out with dinner and you don't have to handle or cook it.

Surely your husband working is paying for you to be a SATM and he should get the meal he wants

By that logic puppy her being a SAHM is facilitating him working, so she should get to choose his job

Well said @clownstar!

It’s the cook who gets to choose imo. But I’d probably do something where something non vegan could be easily added at the end.

Like curry; cook the sauce and pulses first, then your dh can add paneer or prawns or something later if he wants them. Or a big salad, roast dinner, risotto, jacket potatoes with different fillings, pasta and tomato sauce, (add meat or cheese at the end). There are loads of things which are adaptable to both diets.

I also think recent vegans / veggies can often get what you’re experiencing. I’ve been both veggie and vegan, (as well as omni), on and off since I was about 8. I’m currently omni, but try to eat mainly plant based. I’ve gone through phases of feeling utterly disgusted at animal products too.

I don’t think it’s fair to expect you to cook something you find disgusting.

When I was pregnant, fwiw, I barely cooked, as I had such bad food aversions. I also gave dh the side eye when he tried to eat his perfectly nice meals, as the smell of any food other than stodgy white carbs made me feel so ill. I ate chip sandwiches for about a week at one point .

But he's paying for the food!

And she’s making the food! Do you really think whoever’s paying gets to dictate to everyone else?

sonly he is only able to make money to pay for that food because the OP facilitates his ability to work.
She’s not staff she’s an equal partner in the relationship.

When I gave up meat my partner did by default because I buy and cook all the food. He was always welcome to cook his own meat but as he’d rather not and I wasn’t cooking it it just happened.

This is totally normal, it’ll probably get easier over time though doesn’t for everyone. I’d just cook as much vegan as you can, or things they can easily add their own cheese/meat too if they want to. Learning how to make good mimic food is the way forward

He should get to eat what he wants when he comes in, no wonder some women can't keep a man

Holy shit @sonly. If I hadn’t seen your name before all over the baby names thread I would have sworn from this one that you were a nasty troll / MRA. I know you’re not, as I’ve seen your name so much before. But wooo. Your comments on here are fugly. I might report just in case you’ve been hacked tbh!

If the only thing "keeping" your man with you is that you cook his dinner for him, it's not a brilliant relationship is it. Hardly something to aspire to.

Well that took a weird turn.