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How many affairs in your family?

49 replies

affairy · 13/11/2026 17:10

In my family with two parents and two siblings there are no affairs and I would be shocked if one came out.

In DP's family with two parents and two siblings, ever single person has had an affair except DP.

DP and I have really struggled with the knowledge and are wondering how normal it is.

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Buzzlightfear · 13/11/2026 17:13

My Dad, his brother, their Dad, my Brother. All the men in my family it seems!

Purplecatshopaholic · 13/11/2026 17:14

Hmm. I’m the black sheep because my ex had an affair and I divorced him. No affairs or divorce in my family at all (as far as I know), until he fucked things up, lol. I don’t think there’s a ‘norm’, unless someone knows otherwise..

PersephoneParlormaid · 13/11/2026 17:14

Only my dad.

StrugglingAlong75 · 13/11/2026 17:15

DH's family 2 parents, 2 siblings = 1 emotional affair.
My family 2 parents, 2 siblings = none

AbsoluteHoot · 13/11/2026 17:15

None whatsoever. No divorces or separations either.

devildeepbluesea · 13/11/2026 17:16

No one in immediate family. It’s rumoured that my great great grandmother (who I actually knew, she only died when I was about 10), was a bigamist.

Doggymummar · 13/11/2026 17:17

Loads of divorce and my parents are swingers. I'm divorced three times. No affairs as far as I know

Bringemout · 13/11/2026 17:18

Apparently there is a genetic element to cheating, think my grandad probably did, 2 uncles (not biologically related to me) on my side. DH side no hint of anything.

cuddlebear · 13/11/2026 17:19

So my parents were each married to other people when they first got together. He continued to have affairs with various wives and DPs after he left her.

I have never had an affair (married and divorced twice) neither have DBs or DSIS2. DSIS1 had an affair with DH2 whilst married to DH1. Then she was cheated on repeatedly by her second DH but stands by her despicable man. DSIS2 first DH had an affair.

Rayqueen84 · 13/11/2026 17:27

Dh,me my 4 married siblings-none parents, grandparents,great grandparents,aunts,uncles and cousin all married with kids -none
Dh side siblings none-mother countless times but she passed away couple of years ago from cancer so no more dramas since then

Applestroodle · 13/11/2026 17:33

None.

mtobrokeme · 13/11/2026 17:35

None in either of mine or DHs immediate family! His cousins however - brother and sister- their spouses had an affair with each other that caused repercussions in the wider family! My uncle would shag anything that walked and was married 4 times but he’s an arsehole in general so it’s not a shock!

ButMyGoshDontYouKnowIt · 13/11/2026 17:35

My GF had a long lasting affair with a married family friend (her daughter actually married my uncle) until eventually they divorced their respective spouses.
My BIL and SIL got together when SIL and her DH were MILs next door neighbours.

justasking111 · 13/11/2026 17:37

My mother numerous times, wasn't caught for 45 years. My BIL most of his life with wife then various partners.

Weekendplans · 13/11/2026 17:45

Im the only person in my immediate family to not cheat on their partner. Ive had a lot of therapy for otber issues and spent time discussing this as witnessing all all the acrimony and seperations really does affect you when youre young

affairy · 13/11/2026 17:46

@Bringemout i had no idea there was a genetic link to affairs, where did you hear this?

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friedaklein · 13/11/2026 17:47

None I know of. No divorces either except one cousin.

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 13/11/2026 17:49

DH side: none that we know of. He has 2 siblings.

My side: SIL cheated on my DB. No other affairs that I’m aware of.

whippersnapper55 · 13/11/2026 17:54

Neither mine or DHs parents as far as I know! Both long married and happy. My mum & dad together since aged 15 & 17 and together until my dad died at 75. DHs parents married early twenties and together until FIL died at 60. My sibling is single and DHs siblings haven't had affairs that we know of.

I don't know if this is unusual. I think both DH and I had a pretty good example of marriage growing up and we have stuck with it through tough times as well, married 37 years.

Never2many · 13/11/2026 17:55

Realistically though that will be none that you know of. Because the truth is that lots of people have affairs and nobody ever finds out.

My nan always came across as this upstanding member of the community, went to church, judged other people’s behaviour.

Then while she was dying her sister decided to let it be known that she’d had an affair and that one of her children wasn’t her husband’s.

TBH he was a bastard and has almost certainly fathered numerous other children elsewhere as well but still. Anyone the child in question (my auntie) had died about ten years earlier so realistically nobody needed to know.

But then she died and it turned out that she doesn’t actually know who the fathers of most of her five children are, despite the fact she was married at the time all of them were born.

Their dad is also dead now, but he moved on, got married, and had two more children who never knew that he’d been married before and had five other DC.

My dad and his older sister are believed to be his as they are the image of him, but none of the rest of them look like each other, and of course the fact that she definitely had one child by a OM means that everyone doubts now whose child they might have been.

It’s said that Dolly Parton slept around for the majority of her marriage, even though they were married for decades.

So just because divorce hasn’t happened doesn’t mean affairs haven’t. Lots of people stay together despite what MN would have people believe.

Trounlet · 13/11/2026 17:56

My side DF multiple, resulting in at least one half sibling), DM multiple.

SIL was an AP for 30 years until he left his wife for her, then he proceeded to have an affair with ExW.

LizzieSiddal · 13/11/2026 18:01

Both of my grandmothers and one grandfather.
My mum, dad and step mum
My brother and sister.

The repercussions of all this very deeply affected me for my whole life.
I always vowed to myself I’d never do that to anyone and never have.
And Dh knew from very early on in our relationship that if he ever did, that would instantly be the end for us. We’ve been happily married for 37 years.

throwaway3749574 · 13/11/2026 18:06

Surely for every one that’s known about there’s multiple that never come out

justasking111 · 13/11/2026 18:47

throwaway3749574 · 13/11/2026 18:06

Surely for every one that’s known about there’s multiple that never come out

I'm sure you're right. My mother had numerous affairs, wasn't caught. Divorce wasn't easy for religious or financial reasons back then. So you had a dalliance and kept quiet.

Shortbreadel · 13/11/2026 19:11

Father in law

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