bf doesnt want me to ride aaaaaaa!!!!

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sooo the bf was watching me ride today ( a rare thing!) and my darling nutty horse dicided to have a loon at nothing in particular slip over and land on me. great my lil man is a 5 year old tb x arab so can be a "handful" on most occasions . what would you do in this situation??

also how do you cope with horses and babies??? :)

Just read your other thread and came looking for you!

First of all, I would say no decisions have to be made right now. Deciding anything after a scary fall is bound to end up in regrets.

What does your BF think and what other problems are you facing?

just the finace things really have several showjumpers to :( hes really supportive but after seeing the fall today hes like not while your pregnant babe. horses are my life!!!

i have 5 horses in atm 2 belong to me and then my youngster.

I would think riding while pregnant is ok if you are used to it but not on a horse which is likely to throw you and land on you.

hes never done the before but things with him do become habbit for a while. he slipped completley over adn thats why he landed on me .

I think you need to decide what needs to take priority. Your horses will still be there when you've had the baby, why take a risk with the precious new life you are carrying? Your horse slipped and landed on you! I've been in your situation, I was a pregnant hunt groom and I had to make the decision. The horse I rode bolted with me. I managed to stay on but it was a real wake up call. My baby had to come first.

I had my last pregnant ride at 16 weeks as my mare is not always the easiest to handle and I lost my nerve a bit. Couldn't get anyone to ride her 'properly' during my pregnancy so she pretty much had 6 months off.

I started riding again 6 weeks after my c-section and it's going great.

As for coping "with the baby" - either I go to the stables on my own with the baby in a pram so it's a "tall" obstacle for the horses to avoid and then I ride in the sand school with him parked outside the ring - or - leave him at home with his dad and I can do what I like.

Yeah - I agree. TBH if the horse has landed on you once I wouldn't ride him again til after the baby is born - just not worth the risk. Ride the older safer ones by all means.

I have always struggled to ride after meeting my DH. He has always resented the time I spend at the yard. He doesn't help financially with the horse which makes it extraordinarily difficult for me to cope moneywise generally as I now only work PT giving up my FT work to look after the kids. I had to borrow the kids piggybank money today as I can't get any cash from the bank till I get paid on Friday week. Credit card debts are spiralling. Can't tell DH otherwise he will have a fit about the horse again. I fear I will soon have to make a horrid choice as my lovely horse is 18 with health probs so not sellable or loanable in todays buyers market. She can't go out on grass livery as she gets laminitis. It's not so much the time during the week as I can do the DIY around school and work. It's the weekends with DH sulking for England.

Kids / DHs and horses are not a good combination in my own experience. I hope you manage to make it work.

Marge, don't discount grass livery completely until you've had a good look around your area at what's available. The place we are at is divided into large individual paddocks (enough grass for 2 all year if managed right)each with own shelter and water. By using electric fencing to restrict grazing we've kept our elderly cushings loan pony laminitis free for the last two summers, since we took over her care completely - we are stricter than her owner . If you could find a similar place you might be able to make arrangements with another livery to help you out time-wise? There must be lots of people who are short of time during the week who would be glad of some help feeding in exchange for doing yours at the weekend, especially in the winter.

Sorry for hijack btw.

I actually always thought I would carry on riding when pregnant as I'd known other people who had done it with no problems. When it came to my turn though it was different. I carried on for a short while but had to stop as I couldn't stop thinking about how I'd face dh if something awful did happen and I lost our baby. Maybe I was more paranoid because it had taken me such a long time to conceive, I don't know, but I didn't think I would have been able to live with the guilt so it took all the fun out of riding anyway!

Hi Pixel, - yup about hijacking op!

Thanks for your help. Sadly though she has metabolic syndrome which cannot be medicated like cushings apparently. The vet has said 'very little if any' grass ever again. If she gets the laminitis again I fear it will finish her off as Petplan are sure to exclude anything metabolic/laminitis related at the next renewal and I won't be able to pay for treatment. Can't risk it!

I rode till 6 months. Just too uncomfy after that although I trusted the horse.

op, I found the difficulty came more after the baby stopped sleeping during the day. It was fine by DH for me to go off for a ride for a couple of hours when all he had to do was watch Sky Sports and the babies slept. It has got harder with time when the KIDs moan about me going off too and Dh has to actually deal with the pair of them.

well i rode him out round the village he was a star considering todays weather all he did was go sideways because i wouldnt let him canter :) however now the shitty weather has set in i wont be riding until aug at least :( bye bye a season of hunting

I Used to work for a woman who insisted on riding throughout her pregnancy. She regularly went hunting and showjumping. No, she never fell off, but, the night after she had been hunting she went into labour at 28 weeks. Her son was born next day and spent months and months in hospital. He still hasn't caught up and has problems. Yes this might have happened anyway, but she has to live with the fact that riding may have caused her early labour.

im just not risking it. im keepin one horse and he will have a loaner for the pregnanc. hes my star and my winning machine. i really dont want to sell my youngster but the others have to go