[[https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5487113-explain-to-me-why-you-offence-is-caused-by-saying-things-like-mildly-autistic-etc https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5487113-explain-to-me-why-you-offence-is-caused-by-saying-things-like-mildly-autistic-etc]] please have a look at this thread the last comment is awful