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Thinking of getting a cat

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Loubelou71 · 17/08/2026 12:03

I'm thinking of getting a cat to help my son. He's a young adult and is very introverted but has recently said how much he loves cats. My other son mentioned wanting a cat a few years ago but now I'm starting to consider the benefit for my oldest son and that it might bring him out of his shell a bit. I've been researching RSPCA and looking at local breeders.
Is there any advice you could give me? I'm concerned about cost of looking after them, I don't seem to have a location where I could put in a catflap so things I'm sure I could overcome. But any thoughts would be welcome if you can

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Loubelou71 · 19/08/2026 16:39

SGBK4682 · 19/08/2026 08:49

I have had cats since I was a child. As a family we bought kittens from the local pet shop, had kittens from people whose cat had had their own and we took in a stray. As an adult I've adopted via a charity and also had kittens from a pet shop. Not one of those cats was problematic in any way - all had different personalities, some were more lively or friendly, others shyer. The one who had been a stray was very sweet but nervous around our other cats. Our latest 2 were sisters - very loving with each other as kittens, mostly ignored each other as adults. The one we still have is almost 20 and still going strong.

We didn't pay up front for medical cover for any of them but I possibly would if we now had another cat.

We always have had a cat flap - never lived on a main road but near to them. Only one got run over (when I was a child). Others all lived to a decent age.

I just bought supermarket food until our current cat was diagnosed with kidney disease - she's been on a diet of renal food for years now - and also has a thyroid condition for which she has daily medication.

Neutered females are home lovers - they don't wander as far as neutered males. Our latest two barely left the garden, the one we still have only goes to the garden now to sunbathe. We've had a litter tray for the past few years due to our cat's sister being unwell and needing to keep her in, and we've kept that going for our remaining cat. Otherwise we only used a litter tray when a cat was unwell or when we left them at home for a few days and had someone coming in to feed them.

Unless you're very short of money, cats aren't really a big expense other than when it comes to vet bills. So having pet insurance makes sense, though over the years could possibly add up to more than the one off payments we have had to make.

Thanks everyone for your lovely responses..I've taken each on board. I'm looking at rescues because I agree they are in need and I love that they will have the care of the rescue so I will have a better understanding of their personality. I agree my son might not keep his interest but I know I will love it and spend lots of time so it would be a lovely addition to our home. I really appreciate all your responses.

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GeraldineGrainger · 19/08/2026 18:50

blueskydreaming · 19/08/2026 09:21

Cats are wonderful and a privilege to have. If you are keen to get a friendly kitten your best bet is to go through a rescue as their Foster carers will have spent alot of time interacting with the kitten this makes a massive difference kittens that are socialised and stay with their mum and litter until 12 weeks will be friendlier and well adjusted . Breeders sell kittens too early at 8 weeks and probably won't have socialised them. As people have said getting two is much better as they need to keep playing and without their litter mate this is more likely to be your fingers. The myth that cats are cheap and easy probably comes from people that get a " cheap" kitten from a breeder and then don't pay for neutering and vaccinations.

Agree! We have had cats for 50 yrs and appropriate socialisation in early weeks really is key. Rescues and people who foster cats for rescue centres put the appropriate time and effort in to cats and kittens who may not have had the best start in life but can bring such love to a home with the right care. So many abandoned cats and kittens and some treated appallingly who deserve a chance in life. Please adopt!

UrbanFan · 21/08/2026 12:49

I currently have 2 foster kittens in my care and they are going to their forever home tomorrow. They are 3 months old and wonderful animals that had a very bad start to life. Born outside under a shed and lost their mum around 5 weeks old. I absolutely love these little girls as they are the friendliest and most delightful creatures. Foster kittens are socialised by their foster carers. I will miss them so much, but I am so excited for them that they are going to a wonderful couple who will love and care for them. They have a perfect home for them and I know they will all be very happy. That's why we do it. Breeders do it for the money.

My own cat will be glad to see the back of them though.😂

EmpressaurusKitty · 21/08/2026 13:09

UrbanFan · 21/08/2026 12:49

I currently have 2 foster kittens in my care and they are going to their forever home tomorrow. They are 3 months old and wonderful animals that had a very bad start to life. Born outside under a shed and lost their mum around 5 weeks old. I absolutely love these little girls as they are the friendliest and most delightful creatures. Foster kittens are socialised by their foster carers. I will miss them so much, but I am so excited for them that they are going to a wonderful couple who will love and care for them. They have a perfect home for them and I know they will all be very happy. That's why we do it. Breeders do it for the money.

My own cat will be glad to see the back of them though.😂

You’re doing such an important job! The best part of it for me was getting updates on my ex-fosters & seeing how happy they were in their new homes.

@Loubelou71, the other bonus there is that the fosterer is likely to be happy to answer questions or give advice on request once your cat’s moved in.

Iizzyb · 23/08/2026 23:56

Best thing we ever did - I have a quiet boy who loves his cat. We have vet plan and insurance and a few toys but he loves being in our garden as well as the house although doesn’t go far. Food and cat litter don’t cost v much

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