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Should I look for a different place to live?

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Jigaliga · 21/06/2025 07:33

My cat is an adorable 9 year old creature but she's a rescue who was badly treated as a kitten and although she's very bonded with me she's incredibly shy, skittish and nervous with other humans. Almost like she's semi wild. Ive had her since she was 8 months old.

Im splitting up with my partner so I need to move her out of our house. I have the opportunity to go back and be a lodger with a wonderful live-in landlady who I have.lived with before and who is lovely. She has a garden and a cat flap but the problem is she also has a dog. The dog gets on well with cats but has a tendency to herd sometimes. Im not worried about the dogs personality, im worried about my cats. Is this going to be a nightmare situation for her? Should I find a different solution? Any thoughts?

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Hardtum · 21/06/2025 07:56

Different solution yes

Hardtum · 21/06/2025 07:57

she's incredibly shy, skittish and nervous with other humans. Almost like she's semi wild

if not for the sake of the landlady

Hardtum · 21/06/2025 07:58

Aren’t you thinking you might be pregnant op?!

Jigaliga · 21/06/2025 08:02

Hardtum · 21/06/2025 07:58

Aren’t you thinking you might be pregnant op?!

Yep but honestly I'm pretty sure this missed period is stress. I seem to be going through an absolute shit show of a life chapter!

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Galliano · 21/06/2025 08:04

How is the cat with your ex partner? I know this would be heart breaking for you but if it’s an option your cat may be best left in her territory

Jigaliga · 21/06/2025 08:18

Galliano · 21/06/2025 08:04

How is the cat with your ex partner? I know this would be heart breaking for you but if it’s an option your cat may be best left in her territory

I know what you're saying, but she's still skittish with him despite him having practically raised her alongside me! She needs to stay with me.
I think i know what the answer is - I need to find a different solution!

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Hardtum · 21/06/2025 08:32

Jigaliga · 21/06/2025 08:18

I know what you're saying, but she's still skittish with him despite him having practically raised her alongside me! She needs to stay with me.
I think i know what the answer is - I need to find a different solution!

So don’t subject her to this landlady

Jigaliga · 21/06/2025 08:51

Hardtum · 21/06/2025 08:32

So don’t subject her to this landlady

Yes, thats what I meant by "I think i know what the answer is - I need to find a different solution!"

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