Missing Harry

[PinkSparklyPussyCat]

I can't believe it's 6 weeks since we lost Harry. I always knew I loved him but I never expected it to hurt quite this much, sometimes it's like a physical pain. It sounds awful but I think I've cried more for him than when I lost my parents.

We've started looking to adopt another cat (we'd already been approved but pulled out as it was too soon at the time) but I'm finding it so hard as Harry was everything I ever wanted, he fitted in with us perfectly, or maybe we fitted in with him! When we adopted him I saw him on the rescue website and he was the only cat I wanted, I wasn't interested in the others and that was before I even met him!

It's not helping that the rescues are making it so hard to adopt another cat. Battersea and the RSPCA turned us down because we have a cat proofed garden as 'cats should be allowed to roam'. Battersea then went on to tell me they are full and have a waiting list! Cats Protection turned me down as I don't have children! I'm not asking for a kitten, I've said aged around 4-10 but even older cats aren't suitable apparently. I can adopt from the amazing Stray Cat Rescue Team West Midlands but that will be a 6-7 hour round trip so it will depend whether the cat can travel well.

All I want is a middle aged cat, male, preferably black or black and white but it seems too much to ask. I don't even want a lap cat! I can see why people buy cats or adopt from abroad.

Sorry for the long post, I'm just feeling sorry for myself today. I've added a couple of pictures of Harry in his prime just because.

Good luck with your Pebbles meeting today!

Hello PinkSparkly,

I saw your posts on another rescue's social media and wondered whether you'd end up adopting one of their kitties but hope it all goes well with Pebbles today, poor little thing. I'll keep my fingers crossed

We aren't meeting Pebbles today. After a lot of tears and a sleepless night I decided that he looks too much like Harry and I can't cope with that right now and that wouldn't be fair on Pebbles. I feel awful for him but I don't think I can give him what he needs, he'd be Harry 2 rather than Pebbles 1.

I'm trying to decide between two near identical cats from a different rescue now (and no, I can't have them both!) but really struggling as they are almost identical in looks and temperament.

I'm wondering which rescue that is now @AllTheOtherCats!

If you haven't yet, you need to visit them and see whether one of them chooses you rather than the other way round.

Unfortunately that’ll be difficult as they are 3 hours drive from us. DH has a bad back and hip and won’t be able to manage it and I don’t think I can do 6-7 hours driving on my own. The rescue have already said they’ll deliver him half way

Which does beg the question - surely there are plenty of cats needing a home that may suit you much closer to home than 3 hours drive?

Perhaps you should wait a little bit, until you are sure you are ready. Although sometimes one just turns up and you know it is meant to be. I know the feeling of wanting another cat, but I also know the feeling of not being quite ready and have taken a few strays in and found them new homes before I was ready for my own new cat.