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My lovely cat has just died

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Kahlua4me · 14/12/2018 13:56

We had our gorgeous cat put to sleep this morning and I am so sad.

She was 15 and became very poorly in last few days but it is heartbreaking.

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MamaDane · 14/12/2018 13:57

I'm so sorry to hear that. My condolences. Flowers virtual hug. What was her name?

Topseyt · 14/12/2018 14:03

I am so sorry. Flowers

I know how heartbreaking it is, and how quickly things can go downhill once they are that age. I had to take our much loved elderly cat to the vet last Christmas morning to be put to sleep after a dramatic overnight decline.

Be kind to yourself. Do you have any pictures of your beautiful cat?

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Kahlua4me · 14/12/2018 14:25

Thank you for your replies. Dh has had to go back to work so I am sitting here wondering what to do next.

Her name was Toffee and we have had her since dd was 2. She was a rescue cat and very loved by all.

Hers was also an overnight decline really. I took her to the vets yesterday and they gave some meds to try to help with stiffness in her back legs but I didn’t get to give any as she didn’t eat again. By this am she was passing blood and obviously very ill. It is the right decision but that doesn’t stop it hurting.

My lovely cat has just died
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SoupDragon · 14/12/2018 14:30

So sorry to hear this Flowers

MamaDane · 14/12/2018 14:31

Yeah you definitely made the right call. You loved her so much, you would rather she wasn't in pain, even though losing her would bring you in pain.

I know you miss her and most likely will for a long time. And that is okay. She was a part of your family after all. The hurt is just a testament to how much she meant to you.

Toffee was a very gorgeous cat. Flowers

TheLongRider · 14/12/2018 15:23

I am so sorry for your loss. You did the right thing for her. Have you got somewhere to bury her/her ashes? I put a lovely plant in my garden after my cats died. Rudbeckia or "Black eyed Susan" is a lovely black and yellow flower.

bellinisurge · 14/12/2018 15:31

Toffee was a beautiful one. It hurts so bad but you have done the kindest thing .
Be kind to yourself too.
Thanks

fenneltea · 14/12/2018 15:35

What a lovely cat, I'm so sorry you lost her, but be glad that you didn't let her suffer. I'm sure she'd be thankful to you for that.

So hard when they go, but it is a testament to how special she was that it hurts so much. Flowers

2018SoFarSoGreat · 14/12/2018 15:56

RIP Toffee. Lovely cat. So sorry for your loss. It leaves such an enormous hole when they go. 💐

brick10 · 14/12/2018 16:05

Awww rip Toffee, my condolences OP xxx

Mich0027 · 14/12/2018 16:09

Sorry for your loss OP she looks beautiful x

GimbleInTheWabe · 14/12/2018 16:16

I'm so sorry @Kahlua4me. Toffee was absolutely gorgeous and I'm sure lived a very full life of happiness and adventures. Thanks

What sort of personality did Toffee have?

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Kahlua4me · 14/12/2018 16:50

Thank you all for your lovely messages.

Toffee had a gentle nature and was very people friendly. If we were playing a board game she would sit with us and she liked playing games on my iPad! She would go up to anybody who would give her some loving. Our house is on a popular route to local schools and she often used to sit outside waiting for the children to go past and pet her.

Her favourite place to sit though was on that wooden box where she could watch the birds in the garden since she gave up catching them to bring them inside!

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bellinisurge · 14/12/2018 16:55

Sounds like a lovely life that touched many people in a positive way.

FedUpWithBriiiiiick · 14/12/2018 17:00

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers You did a very kind thing for Toffee.

MikeUniformMike · 15/12/2018 14:24

So sad to hear of your loss Flowers

Topseyt · 16/12/2018 15:56

Awww, Toffee was beautiful. RIP Toffee.

Wolfiefan · 16/12/2018 15:58

I am so so sorry for your loss. What a stunning cat and what a lovely life. Flowers

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Kahlua4me · 16/12/2018 16:55

Thank you all.

My dd is so upset, sobbing yesterday evening and the night came into us during the night as she was dreaming about Toffee ☹️😢

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Wolfiefan · 16/12/2018 18:00

Oh bless her. It’s so hard. When we lost boy cat (Black) DS took to taking a stuffed toy panther to bed with him and wanted picture of his cat in his room. Sad

bellinisurge · 16/12/2018 18:05

@Kahlua4me poor thing. I think Cats Protection has info about helping children with their grief.

myidentitymycrisis · 16/12/2018 18:10

so sorry for your loss. She was beautiful and she must have loved you all so much. Gone but not forgotten, Toffee.

Babdoc · 16/12/2018 18:14

I’m so sorry, OP. I’ve had to say goodbye to much loved cats over the years, and I know how much it hurts.
The only consolation is that it sounds like you gave wee Toffee a wonderful life, full of love and fun, and you cared enough to do the right thing at the end and not prolong her suffering.
Hang on to all your lovely memories of her - don’t let the grief block those out.
I know it’s way too soon, but there may come a day when you feel ready to give a loving home to another little rescue cat in need.
It took me 18 months after my 21 year old cat died, but I now have a feisty little madam who has snuggled her way into my heart. I’m sure there’s one waiting for you too.
God bless.

Gatekeeper · 16/12/2018 18:15

I'm sorry Kalua- what a beautiful girl she was

it is very hard to say goodbye to a loving and beloved friend but you did the kindest thing for her

Flowers
Kittycathelp · 17/12/2018 22:17

I'm so sorry. Toffee was a beauty and obviously well loved. I love that she used to wait for the school children to pet her, she was obviously very friendly.

Our cat is poorly at the moment with cancer and I dread this day. I'm sure you have lots of lovely memories of Toffee which I hope make you smile.