I met my SO 4 years away,quickly fell in love however then realised I was allergic to SO cats 🤦🏻♀️ I had never had (nor wanted) a pet before. However I tolerated them. We moved into a new house in November (cats moved in with a friend from may until January - bliss) they are now here,albeit sleeping in the utility and going in and out the window as they please - we live beside a big field and they appear to love it. The only arguments we have are about the cats. They make me itchy,eyes water and very wheezy - I developed asthma from them (as per my gp cats are asthma carriers). Recently my tolerance is lowering - especially as they run in the front door every day I finish work and up the stairs rubbing their claws against everything (in my new house) I neevr lift them, when I can get them into the kitchen they then jump on counters,sit on the sofa and other general cat behaviour- SO doesn't see this as an issue and just puts them out (could be an hour later) while I am having major anxiety about it and getting really frustrated. SO then shouts they can go but don't think it's meant. Any advice it is putting a strain on our relationship