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shock , my girl cat has died

22 replies

mailfuckoff · 18/09/2016 12:33

We think she was hit by a car. Im all over the place and can't stop crying but I have dc to think about. Any advice how I can deal with this for them and to pull myself back together?

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Milkycocopops · 18/09/2016 12:36

No advice but I'm so sad for your loss. Flowers

cozietoesie · 18/09/2016 12:53

I'm so sorry.

Roughly how old are the DCs?

mailfuckoff · 18/09/2016 12:59

They are twins are 7 , we had the cats first so have always been with boys and this is the first family pet to go

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legotits · 18/09/2016 13:04

Sorry for your loss Flowers

cozietoesie · 18/09/2016 13:10

Maybe have a read of this leaflet. (It can also be downloaded.)

I've not had to use their bereavement service myself but I understand that it's also very good.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 18/09/2016 13:13

Flowers. X

mailfuckoff · 18/09/2016 13:18

We've buried her and I've answered some theological difficult questions about cat heaven. now just to get through the day

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cozietoesie · 18/09/2016 13:23

Adult or child, it's not easy. There will likely be people here throughout the day if you would like to tell us about her.

Take care.

crayfish · 18/09/2016 13:25

I'm so sorry, it's horrible losing a pet especially when it's unexpected.

When my last cat died it took me a long time to get over it, I had had him 13 years. I still got upset occasionally even months later. It takes time and you need to give yourself that. Don't worry either if people think you're being silly or 'it's only a cat' because the pain is very real and animal lovers will get it.

I got two new kittens a few months later and it was a real tonic, at first I felt guilty but it was lovely to have cats in the house again.

mailfuckoff · 18/09/2016 13:28

I was her favourite human , she was my baby when I found out I wasn't going to have children naturally and she used to sit on my shoulder. We still have a couple more cats but she was the only one that loves me best

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cozietoesie · 18/09/2016 13:32

Don't be surprised if the balance with the other cats changes now that she's gone. Cat society is a complicated thing and they'll likely make some adjustments themselves.

legotits · 18/09/2016 13:36

When Scrappy had to be pts his sister (both rescue wildlings) decided that after 14 years of disdain she could manage two cuddles a day without biting.

I still miss him ridiculously Sad He was a hero.

TroysMammy · 18/09/2016 14:32

I'm sorry Flowers

PosiePootlePerkins · 18/09/2016 17:35

I'm sorry for your loss, RIP dear pussFlowers

Iamdobby63 · 19/09/2016 12:29

I'm so sorry. I lost a cat fairly recently as well, in the same manner. It really is horrible. Flowers

timtam23 · 19/09/2016 22:57

I'm so sorry Flowers

DramaAlpaca · 19/09/2016 22:58

So very sorry Flowers

anoldiebutagoody · 20/09/2016 12:55

I'm so sorry Flowers

mailfuckoff · 20/09/2016 21:42

Thank you for all the kind words. I'm keeping a very close eye on my others. One is back to normal but her sister seems to be avoiding our house and just coming in to eat. I haven't picked her up yet, they were very similar build wise and I miss my girl too much . We had a mouse present left today so everyone is out of sorts.

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Vinorosso74 · 20/09/2016 21:50

Very sad. So sorry for you all Flowers.

cozietoesie · 20/09/2016 22:01

She's still coming in to eat though so that's something.

AmberNectarine · 20/09/2016 23:03

So, so sorry for your loss.

I lost my lovely boy about 6w ago (similar circs). He was only just one. I was devastated, but as the days went on I was better able to remember him as he was, rather than the cold, stiff cat I had to collect from a neighbour's front garden.

2 weeks ago we got a kitten. Not a replacement, more of a tribute. Our first cat opened our hearts to a pet and made us realise we couldn't live without a cat in the house. That kitten shaped pest is currently charging around the room like a lunatic for no apparent reason and bringing us all so much joy.

It will get better xxx

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