Before anyone takes offence, it's a tongue in cheek title. Our adorable rescue boy is stressed. I don't dispute it - he puts up with 'toddler-love' ie being hugged, and new cats have moved in over the road who keep giving him a pasting 
So on the advice of the vet we've set him up his own sanctuary with food, litter tray, bed, hideaway and feliway.
Rather than taking refuge and basking in this luxury, the little sod has buggered off out!!!!!
They're bloody contrary, aren't they??? 