Ooops, i'm after doing it now. I regularly foster cats and kittens. sometimes i pop round to another fosterer to pick up a cat. she was fostering a mother and kittens, and i fell in love with the mother cat. Today on Facebook i see that Bella (that's her name) is up for adoption. I didn't think, i just couldn't bear the thought of her not being ours, so i emailed them saying i would take her (as long as she fitted in with our existing cat). Now how do i tell DP? Should i bite the bullet or pretend she a "long term foster" and when he is smitten say "why not keep her?". Is it really bad?