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Argh help me with a dilemma

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4c4good · 24/09/2011 18:42

So I have worn my animal-savvy friends out with this issue - maybe I can get some more persepctives on this.

I am single, work full time and live alone with no kids or visiting kids. I share responsibility for my two DD (deardogs) with my ex - mainly they are here at weekends.

I also have a 2 yo cat already from rescue who came to me a year ago and I am very close to her and she to me. She is gentle but very laid back and friendly, used to dogs and cats ( neighbour cats sneak in sometimes and she is always very gracious to them!)

I am devoted to all my animals. Over the last few months I have been thinking about getting another rescue cat and keep looki ng at websites etc and recently found a lovely boy and went to see him, was home checked and agreed to take him.

Now I am having second thougths! he is lovely - very confident and loving but I wake up thinking 'am I doing the right thing?' It would be humiliaitng and nasty to mess the rescue around and give back word - but I think this is better than making a bad decision.


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stinkyfluffycat · 24/09/2011 22:37

You sound lovely.. hopefully if the rescue knows what its doing and they've homechecked you they will know you've already got a cat and two visiting dogs and will have offered you a cat they think would be happy with that?
Would they be prepared to take the new cat back if he wasn't happy with you due to the other animals?

4c4good · 24/09/2011 22:48

Hi Stinky

Thank you! Yes they would - he is from the cats protection league where lovely girl came from. I am planning to take the introduction very very slowly... but what if current cat starts to hate me? I'd be devastated!

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stinkyfluffycat · 24/09/2011 23:03

If she doesn't mind neighbouring cats visiting hopefully she'll be ok with it?
Talk to the CPL and explain your worries - they would prob rather take the chance that new cat will be happy & accepted in his new home with you, knowing they might end up taking him back, than turn down a loving home?
You might get hisses for a few days in any case, one of mine spent 3 days hissing at her own brother after he'd been in the vet for a few days, guess he didn't smell right!

4c4good · 25/09/2011 17:18


Well I have decided to go for it and bought him a bed, an igloo, toys and food dishes!

I plan to keep him in one room for a while till everyone is used to everyone else's smell, and take it very gradually.

Now a name. He is jet black and called Jet but I think I want to change it....

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stinkyfluffycat · 25/09/2011 22:11

Good luck! I think if you change the name you're supposed to keep to the same number of syllables or it confuses the cat?
Hope it all goes well.

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