Ok, she hasn't been moved around a lot, she is approximately 12 and lived at dh's house all her life until 12 weeks ago, and she wee'd in the old house, so I just don't believe it's due to the house move, if it was surely she would have wee'd in the first few weeks not the last few??
Dh won't rehome her.
I've been researching kennels online and you can get heaters so she wouldn't be cold. She prefers to be on her own and only comes into the main living area to pee, usually she sleeps outside our room where the others don't go, so I doubt she'd be lonely.
Is the feliway spray much better than the plugins?
I'll order the cat attract, and yes she could live in the utility room, but this will reduce considerably the space the other 3 will have as I'd intended to have them run from the kitchen -> utility room -> family room, which all have a joining rooms if you know what I mean... But that is an idea.
I appreciate banning her from the house might cause her stress, but having her in the house is causing me stress, causing a gross smell and lack of hygiene! Surely this is worse than her being a little stressed?
I get what you say about decorating for her, but this is supposed to be dh and my first little love nest, I want it beautiful :S we are buying it.
She has pretty much had these issues for 12years so I can't see how we can sort it out :( and I can't see him letting her go, or anyone wanting her, do people really want dirty cats for pets?
Yes we have 5 litter trays all with different litter, you have no idea how much mess 5 litter trays make, I can't wait to go to the loo without feeling like I'm walking in a beach! I'm hovering and moping all day! I have another question about litter trays but will ask that on another thread.
Yes we've tried enclosed litter trays, no one likes it, I've never seen any of the cats attack whilst one is using a tray, mostly the other cats are in the living room, whilst the trays are in the bathroom, kitchen, dining room, so they can wee/poo alone, they only tend to go to those places for using the loo.
I don't think there is bullying going on, but if it is then it's been going on all her life, we a 4 cat household surely not everyone is going to get on with everyone all of the time? She must be used to it after 12 years?
I reckon the only way forward seems to keep her in the utility room...
Thanks for the tea towel advise, I'll try that too.