@todaysdilemma
Does anyone expect their partner to tell them every time they find someone else attractive??? That's an incredibly controlling expectation tbh. An adult relationship is also knowing what needs to be mentioned and when.
This! Imagine coming home from work and saying "darling, I just want you to know I saw a man on the train today and he met my eye across the carriage and there was a connection. And then I got off at my stop". You just bloody wouldn't.