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dd wants to go on the pill

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brimfull · 10/07/2009 19:56

I am glad she has told me....sort of

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brimfull · 10/07/2009 19:56

Actually she should go herself and has said she will..obv if she's shagging she is able to go and sort pill out

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Biglips · 10/07/2009 19:58

i remember when i turned 17 and my mum said that i should go on the pill...i was mortified...i was fine with periods stuff but we never really talked about sex and pgs as i figured it out myself.

Well done to your dd

bamboobutton · 10/07/2009 19:59

is she definitly sexually active?

i went on the pill at 17 because of my periods. i wasn't sexually active then.

has she said why she wants to go on the pill?

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brimfull · 10/07/2009 20:00

she has boyfriend and yes they are having sex

with condoms

she does have pcos so am a bit concerned about her going on the pill

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RhinestoneCowgirl · 10/07/2009 20:01

I think it's great that she's told you. I went on the pill at that age (after having to take MAP when a condom broke) and I would not have dared talk to my mother about it.

CarGirl · 10/07/2009 20:01

I would go and get lots of information about the mini pill and combined pill and work out what are the health risks to her.

Tell her she needs to use the pill & condoms anyway!

KnickKnack · 10/07/2009 20:03

I think you should offer to go with her and discuss all the pro's and con's of the pill wrt pcos etc. 2 people will come away from the GP with more memory of what was said, than 1

bamboobutton · 10/07/2009 20:04

what effect could the pill have on pcos? im clueless on these things.

it's good she wants extra protection though.

expatinscotland · 10/07/2009 20:04

Unless your GP is family-planning trained, I'd probably get her to a FPC first, tbh.

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brimfull · 10/07/2009 20:05

knickknack -yes tht's what I was thinking

She would be desperate to get out of there becasue of embarassment and not listen to a word the GP said.

I don't want to be mollycoddling though

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expatinscotland · 10/07/2009 20:05

especially as she's got PCOS.

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brimfull · 10/07/2009 20:06

expat-yes I went to FPC when i first went on pill ,seemed less personal at the time

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expatinscotland · 10/07/2009 20:06

nothing mollycoddling about it.

again, i'd go FPC all the way.

there's also something vaguely comforting about these places as the waiting room is usually all females and the stuff, too.

SlartyBartFast · 10/07/2009 20:07

you coudl take her, if necessary, if she wants, and wait outside in the car, i am sure you wont need to go in with her.

expatinscotland · 10/07/2009 20:07

I just found them more up to speed on ALL the options that are out there unless the GP is family-planning trained, tbh.

Especially if the person has a condition like PCOS.

expatinscotland · 10/07/2009 20:08

I mean, there's other stuff out there now, like the NuvaRing and patch, that might be a better fit for her than the pill.

CMOTdibbler · 10/07/2009 20:08

I really don't think the mini pill is suitable for teens - the window for taking it is too tight to be reliable.

If there is a teen sexual health clinic near you, then they may be a better resource for her than going to the GP as they will go through all the options, and be totally non judgemental. And they'll give out free condoms which saves some money.
Where I used to live, they gave you (if you were under 21) a special card that you could just hand over at the pharmacy counter in various places, and they would hand back a bag with free condoms in

Going to the GP/clinic is something she should do on her own, or with her boyfriend imo.

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brimfull · 10/07/2009 20:09

thing is I want to be there to help her listen and support her but I don't want to make her embarassed to talk freely about her sex life .
Obviously with your mother sitting there you would be mortified.

But what are they likely to ask that would be mortifying>
?

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expatinscotland · 10/07/2009 20:10

'If there is a teen sexual health clinic near you, then they may be a better resource for her than going to the GP as they will go through all the options, and be totally non judgemental. And they'll give out free condoms which saves some money.
Where I used to live, they gave you (if you were under 21) a special card that you could just hand over at the pharmacy counter in various places, and they would hand back a bag with free condoms in'

That's really ideal. Our well-women clinic does a clinic for teens that has both an appointment time - mornings - or drop in in the afternoons.

SlartyBartFast · 10/07/2009 20:11

but they dont need to know about her sex life do they? other than seh is active and with a boyfriend?
does she want you there?

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brimfull · 10/07/2009 20:12

I think she partly wants me there but is unsure what it all entails.
If it's entierly medical then she's fine with me there.

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KnickKnack · 10/07/2009 20:16

How about if you go in with her,
get all the medical info/advice,
then leave her alone for the rest of it, gives her a chance to discuss embarrassing stuff.

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brimfull · 10/07/2009 20:22

I have a feeling she may want me to disappear when she walks into waiting room filled with teens on their own.

Are there no mnetters who have done this???

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Bicnod · 10/07/2009 20:28

The pill is actually a good thing if she's got PCOS as it helps suppress the effects...

When I went on the pill at 16 I would have been a bit mortified to have my mum there with me to be honest, but that's because my relationship with my mum wasn't as close as you and your DD sound.

If you don't want to go/she would prefer to go alone maybe talk through with her what questions to ask/if there's anything she's worried about before she goes?

They probably won't ask her any particularly probing questions - when I wanted to go on the pill I saw my doctor, she took my blood pressure and asked a few family history questions and then stuck me on one of the low dose ones - its not really a big deal to GPs...

bananapanda · 10/07/2009 20:33

I go to the practice nurse for my contraception, she is very up to date and sympathetic. She has always helped me find the best one for me. So you could start there?