Teens wanting to leave scout camp early

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My DH and two DD are at scout camp for a week. They are both neurodivergent in their own way. They wanted to go when we booked it as they enjoyed it a few years ago but they were younger and not a teenager. DH is saying they’re struggling and is considering bringing them back early. Personally I feel they should see the camp through to build resilience and see their commitments through. This talk of bowing out seems to be ringing more and more as now eldest DD is talking about not doing her expedition for duke of Edinburgh.
my eldest is however trying to cope with Crohn’s so I understand that might be part of it. Any thoughts? They’re not teenagers that disrespect us or anything like that. But they will need to see their neurodivergence issues as they go throughout life. Anyone had similar?

What ate they struggling with?
Small group camp or a big jamboree one?

I'd collect mine.

Woukd this be a discussion if your DH wasn’t with them?

Having parents on camp is difficult for dynamics - it’s worth considering trying to take him out of the discussion to an extent and both you and your daughters talk to another leader about it.

Not the same but I posted on here last week about neurodiverse DD who had a wobble at a residential summer camp. She was ok after I spoke to staff and made it to the end and was proud she did. However, she wasn't actively asking to come home more that she wasn't that sure and it wasn't exactly as she expected. I think the difference here as that DH os there and can see the struggles and that makes it a bit different in terms of there are definite struggles rather than a wobble. When are they due back?

It’s a big camp! On their way home tomorrow! Apparently not much social interaction and other scouts not v forthcoming. It’s going to be hot etc.
should’ve been there another few days and DH was helping with then camp.

I'd let them decide. It's an optional activity, so they can have the option.

I agree with your perspective

Id trust your DHs view here. Hes seen how they are.

(I staffeda big camp recently. I cant imagine how difficult coping with crohns would be with camp toilets. I think your child was extremely brave to attempt it. )

Yeah I have inflammatory bowel disease and had to forego some jobs as a student. She’s been up and down but I hope she’ll not let it limit her as seen as ‘mild’ but still navigating the journey! My youngest is influenced by the mood of her older DS. Anyway going to come home tomorrow and DH feels they’ve experienced the best of the activities so !