Looking for some advice, ds 17, dd 15… dd likes to go to bed early so takes herself up whenever she’s tired… ds would stay up all night. Husband (not their dad) likes an hour before bed with no kids around so we can chill together; the routine was upstairs at 10pm, lights of by 11ish…
ds is now resisting this, he’s at college and works and sometimes with my shifts might not see each other until 9pm. He doesn’t want to go upstairs at 10… he wants to stay down and feels he should be able to as he’s 18 in 4 months… to be fair I agree to an extent, yes I would love some quiet but I also like to see my children, I do however want to see my husband….
needless to say last week brought 3 nights of arguments over this with my husband and son falling out, him storming up to bed and me being stuck in the middle of them both:
tried to explain to his and that maybe we go upstairs earlier and watch tv upstairs but he’s having none of it…..
just wondering what people’s thoughts or experiences of this were….
should also mention son is neurodivergent and can be very demanding of me