Connecting with teenage son as a mum

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Any ideas? My son is 13. He enjoys gaming and playing the cornet. I'm very proud of his achievements musically. I am a "girly girl" in that I love shopping and Costa!!

I share 50/50 care with my ex-husband and have done for seven years. It is not an amicable relationship sadly.

I also have a 10 yo son with my ex-husband and a four month-old baby girl with my fiancé. She is EBF on demand currently.

I've never been a parent to a teenager before and just feel a bit distant from him if that makes sense?

I just want him to know he is still massively important to me.

DS 16 and I have very little in common on paper. He's turned out super sporty and I'm happiest curled up with a book. We've found middle ground that works for us is;
Lunch if we have to go shopping (he dislikes shopping but online isn't great due to muscular thighs)
I have watched all the Marvel films
David Attenborough
He's started to do a bit of cooking, I'm allowed to be sous chef
In 'lockdown' su doku puzzles.

You will find the shared interests because you're open to it. It would never have occured to me to say to DS let's do su doku. He was having a spell of number games on his phone & it came from that.